• jeremyparker@programming.dev
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    I remember years ago I saw a joke online that said something like, if there’s a difference between right and left socks, you’re autistic. I was like, that’s stupid, obviously there’s a right and left sock, and I’m not autistic. A few years later, BAM, autism diagnosis.

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    Soooo…yeah, morality is simple. Do least harm. Easy as that.

    I got so tired with trying the “rules for thee but not for me” approach of every single group to morality that something snapped and I began to follow idea law=moral code. It took years for me to go back to trying to figure out morality.

    In the end I gave up lol. We all have to judge ourselves, because the moment we offload figuring it out to anyone else they are gonna bend it so it works for themselves. ^^

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    My theory on morality is autistic people tend to develop more logic-oriented personalities. Its not a result of autism, necessarily, but a correlation.

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    I can’t stand to wear underwear, bra or socks. Packing is always a breeze. Just … pants and shirts and one pair of socks in case it’s a long day where I’ll start to sweat in my shoes because THAT is worse than the feeling of socks.

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    Its a serious question though. What about wearing socks throughout the timber floor house? If you don’t wear docks you get dirty feet, if you wear socks you get dirty socks

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    When I was a kid, I went through a phase where I didn’t want to wear socks at all. Didn’t like the sensation. Then I went through a very long (decades) phase where I would wear my socks inside out. I realized that it solved a lot of the sensation issues.

    For the past several years though, I have been on my third phase of socks; merino wool. Specifically the ones marketed for hiking. The kind you buy at an outdoors store like REI. I can wear them like normal, and the feel kinda like a blanket. Such great socks man…

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      OMG, are you me?

      I used to wear only those merino wool socks, but as I’ve been getting older and colder I’ve started a collection of oversized snowboarding socks. They are so warm.

      And colorful too!!

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      Wearing socks inside out is huge. Some socks are better right side out, but is rare. I also agree that Merino wool kind of solves this problem, but, as a general rule, “wear your socks inside out” should be in the autism handbook.

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      Ive always* liked knee-high socks. Cant stand ankle socks, cant stand regular cut socks, and thigh-highs don’t stay put without garters, so they can fuck off too. Basically I don’t like feeling pants rub against my legs, if the sensation terminates at some distinct point.

      If I cant wear knee socks I wont wear socks. If I don’t have to wear shoes (can wear sandals or go barefoot) I don’t because I hate socks, and shoes, and general toe restrictions.

      But, similar to your wool solution, I recently found ski socks. High quality, elastic doesn’t degrade quickly leaving them loose, etc. and no toe seam at all. They are a bit tighter than I’d like but thats probably a perk rather than a detriment. Have further to go to wear out.

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      Darn Tough socks are the best. They’re expensive, but worth it. I got a few pairs for hunting and now they’re my go-to in the winter. They come with a lifetime warranty, but the pairs I’ve had for like 10 years show no signs of wear.

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    Treat others how you wish to be treated. It’s pretty easy.

    Socks that slide down or are a bit too small? Kill me 😊

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      I’m the opposite. I want my sock small. I can’t stand a baggy sock. I usually have to buy a smaller size than my foot.

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        It doesn’t because people into those things should usually understand the basics of consent, and also don’t generally want to be treated that way by people they aren’t fucking.

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          Not into CBT specifically, but on a similar side of the house, and yeah, consent is the big thing. “Treat people as you wish to be treated” doesn’t mean do exactly what you’d want done. Consent is king. You want consent, they want consent. I love strawberries. A good friend is deathly allergic. I would love to be given a strawberry desert. That would kill my friend. I’m not going to forcefeed my friend strawberries just because I like em, but I may give them food.

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        It’s not like “Treat others like they express they want to be treated” has that much worse of a ring to it.

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        Only masochists are into cognitive behavioural therapy tbf…

        Every time someone mentions the therapy by acronym, though, I think of the other one!

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    Hurting = bad. More hurting = more bad.

    The rest is surprisingly easy to derive. Not sure why people struggle with the concept…

    But socks, oh my… Where could I possibly begin.

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      and both were equally successful is doing something about those injustices

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        Not really. Spreading the word and building community to fight back against injustices and not tolerating intolerance goes a long way. No, I’m not gonna go killdozer on someone, but if everyone felt a little more pissed off and less distracted we could have some momentum.

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          just make sure you protest in your government approved protest spot and wear your che guevara fitted tshirt to show message unity

          the reason they want to give luigi the death penalty is his actions worked until power felt safe again to be evil

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        Not really. Spreading the word and building community to fight back against injustices and not tolerating intolerance goes a long way. No, I’m not gonna go killdozer on someone, but if everyone felt a little more pissed off and less distracted we could have some momentum.

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    Feeling injustice is pretty universal. I don’t think it’s characterising autistic trait.

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      https://www.simplypsychology.org/autism-justice-sensitivity.html

      You think wrong. Psychologists do use a heightened sensitivity to injustice as a diagnostic criterion when trying to see if someone has ASD.

      And to highjack this comment as well to correct the record on your view of empathy and autism: empathy can be roughly divvied up into cognitive empathy (reasoning why someone is feeling a certain way) and emotional empathy (recognizing that someone is feeling a certain way). The former strongly depends on one’s theory of mind, which tends to be under developed in people with ASD. Saying that someone with autism has “reduced empathy” is reductive and can lead to wrong conclusions (for example, one could conclude that autistic people care less about justice).

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      i think you are missing how many people have stunted empathy in the world and how they tend to fall conservative in politics

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        I thought, autistic folk have stunted empathy by definition? (they can’t reliably read other people’s emotions).

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          In my experience, “stunted empathy” refers to the reading part. As in we’re bad at reading facial expressions or situations unconsciously like neurotypical people do without even thinking.

          What comes off as coldness is just missing information. Thats the frustrating part.

          But the actual feeling/response isnt stunted, necessarily. In may even be unusually strong, but I think that is down to personality.

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          so the autistic response if they have high enough function is to learn to fit in to avoid pain, they generally want to be apart of a functioning group

          whereby oddly becoming quite good at learned emotional response

          the difference is a sociopath in power feels no need to care or hide it

          you’d think society would care but as long as said person in power gives them someone to hate they get a pass

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    Morality. Logic. Patience. Kindness. All go out the fucking window the moment my toes in their always-double-knotted shoes feel the suffocating tickle of sock seams.

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      As an autistic person, morality is simple. People should be allowed to live, hurting people is bad. War and death are bad.

      But if that sock seam gets in the wrong place, I can fully imagine commiting war crimes that would have me tried at the Hague or offered a high ranking position on a team of scientists recruited by the US government.