• F/15/Cali@threads.net@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    51·
    2 days ago

    Alright, now that it’s been brought up, can I just ask whether anyone else is tired of this obsession with shaving? I’m on the other side of the aisle and I can’t understand how hairlessness is meant to be attractive, pleasant to maintain, or (and this is the weirdest one) tactful. Women have body hair. Why it in vogue to pretend they don’t?

    I shave my foot hair, but only because it catches on my socks. I’ve heard exactly one woman complaining about groin hair catching on fabric and that was because it had been shaved recently.

    Women deserve body hair and large pants pockets, but that’s just my political opinion.

    • pyre@lemmy.worldEnglish
      31·
      17 hours ago

      i don’t care either way, but shaving all your pubic hair is unattractive imo.

    • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      1 day ago

      I’d like to add that pubic hair can make a big difference for sex as far as chaffing goes. Having sex with everything shaved leaves my skin irritated. Even just a tuft of hair helps prevent that from happening.

      Point is, pubic hair serves a purpose. Besides, the challenge of shaving pubic hair in its entirety isn’t worth it to me. You get maybe a day where it’s smooth, then itchy bumps that you can’t scratch in public for a week afterwards. Not to mention the struggle of shaving an intimate area that you can’t easily see or reach, putting a razor super close to extremely sensitive body parts and hoping your hand doesn’t slip… no, thank you! Just accept that I’m a grown woman and grown women have hair. If that’s a hard line for you, then I guess you’re not getting laid. ¯\(ツ)/¯

    • Velma@lemmy.todayEnglish
      14·
      2 days ago

      I grew so tired of the obsession, I stopped shaving completely. I’m a woman for the record.

      It hasn’t affected my ability to get laid at all. No one noticed while I was on a beach vacation. It’s generally way over hyped.

    • Crackhappy@lemmy.worldEnglish
      481·
      2 days ago

      I don’t shave for aesthetics, personally, I shave because I hate having body hair, it bothers me.

    • shani66@ani.socialEnglish
      123·
      2 days ago

      Feels better, both to have smooth skin and to feel smooth skin. Just looks better too ¯_(ツ)_/¯

      same goes for men, too, society just doesn’t pressure men the way it does women

      • Velma@lemmy.todayEnglish
        6·
        2 days ago

        It’s very subjective. There’s plenty of people who enjoy the look of natural hair on bodies.

          • Velma@lemmy.todayEnglish
            3·
            1 day ago

            Thank you! It really irks me to see the sentiment that shaved is better. Women don’t need more messaging about how we’re supposed to be hairless or that it’s better to be shaved. Everyone can choose how to keep their bodies and we should all respect that.

    • Gonzako@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      1 day ago

      Idgaf about bush hair tbh, I actually prefer it! It has a very nice hand feel. I do prefer shaved legs tho.

    • rumschlumpel@feddit.orgEnglish
      15·
      2 days ago

      Lots of men shave/wax, too. Most “hot” male hollywood stars are showing up with a completely hairless upper body to their shirtless scenes. There’s definitely more pressure on women IRL, though.

      • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.worldEnglish
        6·
        1 day ago

        That’s sad. Chest hair is hot.

        I didn’t think so back when I was a teen (a time when most boys my age didn’t have chest hair yet, so it made sense.) But as I got older and it became age-appropriate, I started to really, really like it. There’s nothing like grabbing a handful of chest hair in the midst of passion (provided that he’s into that.)

    • Damaskox@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      2 days ago

      As a man, my experience with women’s hair down there is positive generally. When it comes to oral pleasure however, it gets challenging to me personally.

        • socsa@piefed.socialEnglish
          4·
          1 day ago

          I am a fan of hair in general, but I will say that inhaling a pube and having it cling to the back of your throat is a pretty big mood killer.

        • Velma@lemmy.todayEnglish
          3·
          2 days ago

          Goes both ways, too lol. Trimming down below can be helpful for either gender if oral is involved.

        • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          1·
          1 day ago

          Basically same.

          I’ve completely wiped out my moustache and beard for various people who enjoy kissing me, but not the facial hair.

          Some people like the scratch, others don’t, others don’t really have a strong preference either way, so long as they don’t have to go through a mane and end up with a mouthful of hair.

          Just… do that both ways, for ‘kissable’ body parts, per preference of the ‘kisser’, and its fine?

          This seems very not complicated to me.

    • gegil@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      4·
      2 days ago

      I usually shave my body hair in summer when i wear lighter clothes with more open skin. Its just easier to apply sun protecting cream to bare skin compared to hairy skin.

  • brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    33·
    2 days ago

    Honestly starting to shave more and more areas has made me hate body hair more and more. Idk why, but any hair that isnt my eyebrows or on top of head drives me absolutely insane now. It gets to be much to shave everything all the time, i do it in cycles. If i never grew it again, id be a happy girl

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      5·
      1 day ago

      So, I am a dude, thus take this with a grain of salt perhaps, but:

      Find you a person who will be excited to, and capable of safely shaving/trimming you.

        • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          3·
          16 hours ago

          I mean, I’ve groomed some of my partners, some of them have groomed me.

          So… yes?

          There is at least one person?

          Maybe I am very strange, I am autistic, so social norms are basically all arbitrary performances to me, but it seems to just make sense?

          I’m fairly sure this is also a behavior that is done by a good deal of our ape ancenstors, mammals more broadly: Grooming and cleaning another is itself a kind of social bond, a way to establish and demonstrate trust and care.

          It also just saves money; if you have or can teach a partner how to do things like… haircut touchups, eyebrow shaping, basic mani/pedicure type stuff, whatever, now you don’t need to spend money on something you’d normally have to pay someone else to do.

          And you can just like, have a conversation while doing this. Quality time, lol!

          Works super duper well if one of your ‘love languages’ is just any kind of caring/affirmatory physical touch.

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      10·
      2 days ago

      Protip from a formerly hairy woman - get waxed every month for at least a year (I did it for 2 years), and the hair grows back much softer … now I shave my legs once a week, and it’s quick and easy :-)

      Edit: get it waxed by a pro, don’t try and do it at home

      • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        1 day ago

        I have waxed at home, but I can concur with this. Shaving leaves the tips of hair sharp, but when it grows in from the root it gets a fine, naturally-tapered tip that makes it feel softer.

        Which is part of why the myth of “if you shave your hair, it will come back thicker” is so prevalent. The hair doesn’t permanently change texture from shaving, it’s just that once you get into a habit of doing it regularly, it will feel rough all the time because of it.

        • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          3·
          1 day ago

          Not just that, waxing damages the roots and weakens them, making the hair grow back finer

          The same thing can bite you in the ass if you over-pluck your eyebrows

      • petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        16 hours ago

        I have one I have used twice because the fear of giving myself cancer freaks me the hell out. I have no idea if that fear is founded, it was just an epiphany I had.

        • Amnesigenic@lemmy.mlEnglish
          2·
          16 hours ago

          Zero risk of cancer, all it does is pull hairs out by the root the same as tweezers or wax. Not that I don’t understand the apprehension after having used it the first time, epilators hurt viciously but they get the job done quickly and consistently with minimal prep or cleanup.

            • Amnesigenic@lemmy.mlEnglish
              1·
              8 hours ago

              Fair, they do have a bunch of different IPL and laser products and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them could give you cancer

    • rumschlumpel@feddit.orgEnglish
      7·
      2 days ago

      I even got some kind of “razor burn” from professional waxing, and I kinda hate having all this body hair. FML

      • brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        2 days ago

        OMG i have the most sensitive skin ive ever seen on anyone. Waxing and hair remover is a nogo, especially because the hair that grows from that skin is also very thick. Ive used hair remover and managed burning my skin before all the hair would come.

        Ive tried waxing too but no matter how i do it it doesnt actually pull the hair. Maybe i dont let it grow enough? Idk

        • rumschlumpel@feddit.orgEnglish
          4·
          2 days ago

          AFAIK you do need to grow it out a bit, especially when it’s your first time (the finer hairs that grow from well-waxed skin should offer less resistance). That was one of the issues when I went to a professional waxing one time. The chemical hair remover I’ve tried has been useless, too. At this point, about the only thing I haven’t tried is brazilian waxing (supposedly more skin-friendly) and laser hair removal, but both are beyond my financial means…

          • brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            3·
            2 days ago

            I appreciate the reply! Imma try the waxing after longer hair, even if it makes my skin hate me. I hope it helps, because i literally have to shave some areas twice a day if i wanna be hairless lol

  • redbrick@lemmy.worldEnglish
    14·
    2 days ago

    Very interesting…can they reach down that far??? I mean that distance looks almost a full body length from this perspective.

    • sem@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      3·
      2 days ago

      Ive watched these mosquitos. They land on top of the body hair, and then quickly climb down to the skin level, maybe taking a split second to do so.

      Sometimes that’s enough of a delay to detect and swat them.

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      1·
      1 day ago

      Bugs, in general, can they bite you anywhere?

      Basically yes, depending on the clothes you’re wearing, the position you’re in, the climate/biome you live in.

      Sand fleas, at a nudist beach.

      A person sleeping nude in an area that’s got lots of bugs, etc.

      You’ve decided to go camping, where bugs exist.

      …etc.

      Let me just tell you that bed bugs fucking suck.

      Like, figuratively and literally.

      Ain’t everybody got enough money to live in a decently maintained residence or building or… county or city.