• brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    Honestly starting to shave more and more areas has made me hate body hair more and more. Idk why, but any hair that isnt my eyebrows or on top of head drives me absolutely insane now. It gets to be much to shave everything all the time, i do it in cycles. If i never grew it again, id be a happy girl

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      So, I am a dude, thus take this with a grain of salt perhaps, but:

      Find you a person who will be excited to, and capable of safely shaving/trimming you.

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          I mean, I’ve groomed some of my partners, some of them have groomed me.

          So… yes?

          There is at least one person?

          Maybe I am very strange, I am autistic, so social norms are basically all arbitrary performances to me, but it seems to just make sense?

          I’m fairly sure this is also a behavior that is done by a good deal of our ape ancenstors, mammals more broadly: Grooming and cleaning another is itself a kind of social bond, a way to establish and demonstrate trust and care.

          It also just saves money; if you have or can teach a partner how to do things like… haircut touchups, eyebrow shaping, basic mani/pedicure type stuff, whatever, now you don’t need to spend money on something you’d normally have to pay someone else to do.

          And you can just like, have a conversation while doing this. Quality time, lol!

          Works super duper well if one of your ‘love languages’ is just any kind of caring/affirmatory physical touch.

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      Protip from a formerly hairy woman - get waxed every month for at least a year (I did it for 2 years), and the hair grows back much softer … now I shave my legs once a week, and it’s quick and easy :-)

      Edit: get it waxed by a pro, don’t try and do it at home

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        I have waxed at home, but I can concur with this. Shaving leaves the tips of hair sharp, but when it grows in from the root it gets a fine, naturally-tapered tip that makes it feel softer.

        Which is part of why the myth of “if you shave your hair, it will come back thicker” is so prevalent. The hair doesn’t permanently change texture from shaving, it’s just that once you get into a habit of doing it regularly, it will feel rough all the time because of it.

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          Not just that, waxing damages the roots and weakens them, making the hair grow back finer

          The same thing can bite you in the ass if you over-pluck your eyebrows

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        18 hours ago

        I have one I have used twice because the fear of giving myself cancer freaks me the hell out. I have no idea if that fear is founded, it was just an epiphany I had.

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          Zero risk of cancer, all it does is pull hairs out by the root the same as tweezers or wax. Not that I don’t understand the apprehension after having used it the first time, epilators hurt viciously but they get the job done quickly and consistently with minimal prep or cleanup.

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              10 hours ago

              Fair, they do have a bunch of different IPL and laser products and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them could give you cancer

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      2 days ago

      I even got some kind of “razor burn” from professional waxing, and I kinda hate having all this body hair. FML

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        2 days ago

        OMG i have the most sensitive skin ive ever seen on anyone. Waxing and hair remover is a nogo, especially because the hair that grows from that skin is also very thick. Ive used hair remover and managed burning my skin before all the hair would come.

        Ive tried waxing too but no matter how i do it it doesnt actually pull the hair. Maybe i dont let it grow enough? Idk

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          AFAIK you do need to grow it out a bit, especially when it’s your first time (the finer hairs that grow from well-waxed skin should offer less resistance). That was one of the issues when I went to a professional waxing one time. The chemical hair remover I’ve tried has been useless, too. At this point, about the only thing I haven’t tried is brazilian waxing (supposedly more skin-friendly) and laser hair removal, but both are beyond my financial means…

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            I appreciate the reply! Imma try the waxing after longer hair, even if it makes my skin hate me. I hope it helps, because i literally have to shave some areas twice a day if i wanna be hairless lol