• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      19 hours ago

      I mean, I’ve groomed some of my partners, some of them have groomed me.

      So… yes?

      There is at least one person?

      Maybe I am very strange, I am autistic, so social norms are basically all arbitrary performances to me, but it seems to just make sense?

      I’m fairly sure this is also a behavior that is done by a good deal of our ape ancenstors, mammals more broadly: Grooming and cleaning another is itself a kind of social bond, a way to establish and demonstrate trust and care.

      It also just saves money; if you have or can teach a partner how to do things like… haircut touchups, eyebrow shaping, basic mani/pedicure type stuff, whatever, now you don’t need to spend money on something you’d normally have to pay someone else to do.

      And you can just like, have a conversation while doing this. Quality time, lol!

      Works super duper well if one of your ‘love languages’ is just any kind of caring/affirmatory physical touch.