Man the world sucks but you really shouldn’t see me on Rhode Island highways.
There’s this asshole parking in a complete no parking street in a pretty dangerous spot every day for a week now and I’ve reported it to the correct public channel for such nuisances daily. I’m so frickin annoyed by it and my partner just doesn’t get it.
See, I’m generally against calling the correct public authorities for shit like that, because in this day and age it’ll probably end with the asshole getting deported or shot.
And as much as I hate people who park in dangerous spots, I don’t think that’s deserved.
There was this giant box truck that used to always park in a no-parking spot (on the shoulder of the street) right next to the exit from my kids daycare. As a result it was a leap of faith pulling out, every single day, because you couldn’t see shit around it.
This was right around the corner from the police station, so I must assume they’ve seen it and it’s probably one of theirs.
Honestly just been kinda numb for a long time now. It’s going to suck when my brain actually starts processing things again, but, for now, I’m a human robot level of functional.
Dissociation (numbness) is a trauma response.
I always thought it’s ODD, that’s usually present in people with ADHD, and not actual ADHD.
Or is that something else?
Oppositional Defiant Disorder, I think, is very different with Justice Sensitivity.
Still very often correlated with ADHD. So are a bunch of other neurodivergencies. Autism, a plethora of eating disorders, nymphomania/satyriasis (of course, anxiety and depression are also common, and SSRI’s take care of that…), and addiction probably the most common.
There’s a lot of hot takes on this forum that try to correlate neurodivergence with some kind of moral compass.
It neglects how ideas like justice are social constructs and cultural touchstones, not universal truths and absolutes.
What’s being described is a dissonance between espoused legal/moral standards and lived ones. But which is “correct”? ADHD doesn’t give you any clarity one way or another.
Oppositional Defiance Disorder?
I mean it mostly only occurs in children and it is a controversial diagnosis. Hard to separate poor parenting skills from it.
Idk man comparing my two kids, both on opposite ends of ADHD (one hyperactive/compulsive, one inattentive)…the hyperactive one is quite ODD and the inattentive one, aside from the ADHD-I tendencies, is probably one of the best behaved kids in the world.
Though I may be a bit biased.
I don’t think it’s nurture. I think ODD has a direct correlation to compulsive behaviors in ADHD-H/C kids. It’s probably something they eventually (hopefully, god willing) grow out of…but also something that would probably turn into other dangerous/compulsive behaviors I’d have to keep an eye out for (like hypersexuality or addiction).
That kid just turned seven and I’m already having nightmares of being a granddad in less than 10 years.
I just turned down an opportunity of a lifetime because I need to be able to sleep at night. Please never say Americans don’t care.
I love each and every person here. Please catch your neighbor when we crash and burn.
No corporate cult is worth our sacrifice. Bless you all!
Me, sitting here with so-called “justice sensitivity”:
Because you matter too. Your feelings matter too. Your happiness matters. You should not “get over” injustice, but you should do whatever you need to do to be happier, even while all this is going on out of your control.
Because when the time comes, when the fire is hot and the iron is ready, I want you strong and healthy and clear about what we need to do.
Translation: people with ADHD are perfectly normal, while neurotypical people are fine with injustice.
Don’t mean to be pedantic (I know, I know) but do firehoses absorb information well?
Not sure they do.
My coping mechanism: when I feel that I am going to be overwhelmed by bad news or the cruelty for the sake of it.
- Is this something I can influence in a way or another? The answer is typically no (otherwise I would have already worked on addressing)
- Spending emotional energies on this would change anything for this instance? The answer is always no
- If I keep on wasting emotional energies on this topic that I can’t change, will I have the energies for having an impact on things I can have an impact on?
This makes me realise that the best I can do for the system is, sadly, ignore the problem. Not because I don’t care but for a strategic effort in doing what I can
I know plenty of people who use that logic to avoid feeling emotions about the state of the world, but then they never do anything to actually help the state of the world. Not saying this is you, it’s just a discouraging trend and I think that actually the people who get most upset about things they cannot change are often the only ones who end up making an effort to change them.
If there is something that can be done, well then it means that I have some control.
If all I can do is burn myself out… it would not make the world better
I need papers to back up this claim. That’s rather vague.
Why is this in the autism community when it’s about ADHD?
I agree with the post as someone with ADHD. When I’m in the shower, I listen to NPR and Apple News. I’ve had times where I break down in tears over something so tiny either sweet or awful. It’s exhausting sometimes.
No no no no, don’t do that. Don’t listen to anything more than maybe music in the shower. You desperately need to not do that. Seriously. I don’t know if you need to, to regulate or whatnot, but if you don’t need to, please consider giving your nervous system that time and space.
I enjoy listening to NPR and Apple News when getting ready. It’s not every day, and it keeps me minimally informed. The tearing up doesn’t happen that often. I was just providing an anecdote.
That’s good that it doesn’t happen every time, but I’m speaking more of specifically filling what is otherwise a really important introspective time that lets your brain sort of decompress and relax and be free, and tethers it to others’ thoughts and words. We already fill all of our lives with stimulation and attention stealing algorithms and awful bullshit, we need to do what we can to reclaim our own abilities to self stabilize, and to do that, I think it’s important to have times of relaxation where we’re free to have our own thoughts. It’s very possible I’m projecting, but on the off chance I’m not, I seriously encourage you to try to be alone with your thoughts more often, and the shower, at least to me, is kind of a sacred time and space to breathe deeply and calmly and let our nervous systems recover. You don’t get that when you’re filling that time and space with, no offense and not pertaining to your taste, but, essentially, garbage. That just isn’t a good trade at all, in my opinion.
In the shower I like noise and whatnot and am able to still have a pretty relaxing time. Plus NPR is just a few minutes and just facts.
I’m lucky I get to walk and take public transit to/from work, so that’s my quiet time. Even if I’m on the phone doing my daily gatcha game or scrolling lemmy, I still get moments of quiet and introspection. I was diagnosed with depression last year, and I think it was a big part of just dopamine burnout with ADHD and the news cycle, but I’m doing much better on medication, and it’s allowed me to step back and quiet my thoughts a little more too. :)
Everyone is different, but thanks for being concerned for your neighbor lemmy user and taking the time to explain!
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If the news makes you sad, why would you interact with it?
Ignorance is bliss. Just look at the Buddhists, they live peacefully, couldn’t give a shit and do fine.
Not all Buddhists are detached from the world. Certainly the ones who self-immolate to protest wars like the US invasion of Vietnam were involved enough to make a difference.
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It’s not all the time. It’s just an anecdote I had to relate to the post. I enjoy listening to the news while I get ready mostly.
As an American, I don’t understand how anyone can be proud of our “founding principles” without also being deeply ashamed of our failure to live up to them. It fucking hurts to live with this much hypocrisy, and I’m not the one getting snatched off the fucking street. Better just keep absorbing as much info as possible lest I feel guilty for ignoring it…
In the context of feudalism, monarchy and the late “Middle Ages” in Europe, liberal democracy is one of the most revolutionary things ever to happen to Humans, and the US led the way in reducing that ideology to practice.
From there, the admirable stuff is largely the framework for self reflection the system creates, though the US has not always led the way in that sense compared to its peers. No society is perfect, and a major differentiator between empires is how the people handle reflection of past sins. This is why being a progressive in the US is so fucking tedious - because the legacy and the procedures for doing better are there. They are well known and they aren’t that complicated. But then there’s this whole contingent of reactionary assholes who are neither students of history or philosophy, resting on imagined laurels to constantly oppose and then undo what progress we are able to make.
That explains so much.
The world is so depressing to me right now. I’ve retreated inward as a result focusing purely on myself and family.
Home projects and friends have been most of my free time.
Ah.
A-hah.
Ha!, even. Hahahahahahahaahahahaah!
Nah, it was hard back when it was 9/11 being used as an excuse. These days? Sanity is overrated. XD
I just got on ADHD meds and it’s making it harder to ignore the world being on fire. I’m more focused on it and I’m going to have a nervous breakdown.
That sounds like an adequate reaction to the state of things to be fair.
You can choose where you place your attention.
But only when you learn to control it.
Meditate, and you can see the beauty in the world.
I had the exact same issue. You might have to practice being a little selfish.
Not to others in your life, but acquiring the ability to turn off your brain to the woes of the entire world. It feels bad, awful even, to ignore the suffering of others, but it’s a necessity to cope with how much the modern world will jam down your throat if you let it.
Taking time away from news, letting yourself not ruminate about it, giving yourself that mental space, it all means that when you’re in a position to do the good that you can, you have the resources to act on that good.
❤️
Feels like a bad plan. Like bottling or setting yourself up for bad shit, later. At least it would be, for me.
I’m not sure what you mean? Relinquishing some perception over things you can’t control in any way seems pretty straightforward. I’m not saying be entirely ignorant, but there’s a healthier balance than subjecting yourself to misery 24/7.
I’ve been trying. Aforementioned medication is helping executive function, so I’ve taken to cleaning for 12 hours a day. Sure, it’s mostly pointless work, but it’s keeping my brain off the news for the majority of the day :)
Are you new to this medication? ADHD meds can be a lot starting out.
Yeah it’s a bit crazy, just going into month 2 now.
Best thing to do for your sanity is unplug from the news for most of the day.
I’ve kicked all of the political stuff right in the head, and most of my day is listening to my huge music collection or a youtube music channel like BGM while I work.
(I didn’t even pay attentiuon to Trump’s comments or anything at the Correspondents Dinner the other day… Just don’t give a shit about that crap anymore. I figure he probably went off ranting like a demented old fart and leave it at that. Not interested…)
The news WILL make you crazy, and the thing is, life goes on just fine when you aren’t oversaturated by it.
Remember, the news industry - corporate media - all of it - has decades of experience in keeping listeners/vewers/readers hooked and coming back, even if it is toxic.
You know how bad shit’s gonna be with the current crop of sociopathic fucks in Washington DC, so you don’t need to confirm it. Just find something else to listen/watch/read that is informative, educational and fun.
Great advice thank you
