The worst part is when you try to gently warn people, and they look at you like you’re the crazy one—only for the exact thing you predicted to happen five minutes later.
Neurotypicals pick up on emotional queues their partners miss, try to warm them that they’re committing a faux pau, and are dismissed until things spiral out of hand.
I joined a large friend group that had been together for 7 or so years. There was a person that I noticed would tell different people slightly different versions of stories. Normally I’d dismiss these as white lies but I noticed a pattern. The person in question saw relationships as transactional and I highly suspected that these white lies revealed a much deeper penchant for emotional manipulation.
I tried to warn some people that I thought I could trust within the friend group, but this upset some people and I had the step way back. After all, who is the new person to come into this group and fuck things up? I kept my mouth shut and out of the drama as I had to watch this person build a giant rift within the group.
Thankfully a few people had finally remembered the warning I had given years before and started comparing notes on the stories this person had told everyone. In the end I was vindicated when people started confronting the lies, but a lot of people had to go through therapy for the years of suffering that person caused in the meantime. I’m not giving too many details, but it got bad: suicide attempts, cops, legal battles. I had to just sit there and watch it all.
The worst part is when you try to gently warn people, and they look at you like you’re the crazy one—only for the exact thing you predicted to happen five minutes later.
It’s funny, because this is more often diagnosed the other way around.
Neurotypicals pick up on emotional queues their partners miss, try to warm them that they’re committing a faux pau, and are dismissed until things spiral out of hand.
Then they look at you again in shock and exclaim, “omg! You were right!” To which I typically reply, “I know.”
Their response: who told you?
Implicit: you probably knew all along, you bastard.
They just continue on in frustration, annoyed, not understanding why things aren’t working out.
The part that depresses you is that somehow it’s your fault for noticing it sooner and not trying hard enough to convinelce others.
Nah, the worst part is when they gang up to say it’s your fault even though you were the one warning them and not participating in whatever happens
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I joined a large friend group that had been together for 7 or so years. There was a person that I noticed would tell different people slightly different versions of stories. Normally I’d dismiss these as white lies but I noticed a pattern. The person in question saw relationships as transactional and I highly suspected that these white lies revealed a much deeper penchant for emotional manipulation.
I tried to warn some people that I thought I could trust within the friend group, but this upset some people and I had the step way back. After all, who is the new person to come into this group and fuck things up? I kept my mouth shut and out of the drama as I had to watch this person build a giant rift within the group.
Thankfully a few people had finally remembered the warning I had given years before and started comparing notes on the stories this person had told everyone. In the end I was vindicated when people started confronting the lies, but a lot of people had to go through therapy for the years of suffering that person caused in the meantime. I’m not giving too many details, but it got bad: suicide attempts, cops, legal battles. I had to just sit there and watch it all.