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  • sleepmode@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldEasily done
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    2 months ago

    Me (ADHD) and one of the autistic guys at work are a damn disaster trying to converse sometimes. He barrels on for so long with a train of thought that I start daydreaming or get distracted by a phrase and tune him out. Then i snap to reality and realize the conversation is over and I’ve barely heard most of what he’s said. It’s… troublesome. I sometimes have to record our meetings or take notes and make a summary to put it all together.

    But with others that are not neurotypical, usually also ADHD, it almost seems like we can read each other’s thoughts with how we can rapidly jump around various subjects with barely any context and be on the exact same page. Strange how that works.












  • Did have some teachers that were bullies. I remember how that felt really strange and it was difficult for me to process once I realized what was happening. I didn’t get the logic or motive of an adult bullying a child. Or why they played favorites. Now that I’m older and I realize how adults work - it’s not so strange. It was probably exacerbated by my being a bit… rebellious.

    Kids being bullies because they could somehow sense I was different was pretty common but expected after a while. Nowadays I think I’m pretty good at passing as “normal” but I can tell when some can sense it. And that makes me internalize the why and how a lot. I have some issues with it but I try not to dwell, and focus on improving my social skills.

    Oddly enough, despite all that I would say on average I didn’t have a terrible time overall and I made a lot of friends.



  • It sucks your teammates sound like vile human beings. Hopefully your new manager sees you for you. My team just had a very toxic and passive aggressive manager get fired. Apparently mgmt saw what he was doing to us. And yet, I was more afraid of who they’d hire next. The devil you know and all that. Jury is still out on new guy, but so far he is meshing well. I hope you find yourself in a similar and better situation.