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  • rekabis@lemmy.catoAutism@lemmy.worldAnyone else just not get it?
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    2 days ago

    Ok boomer

    A decade too young for that.

    But at least I have eyes to see, ears to hear, and a thinking mind to process real-world evidence and facts. I’m not blinkered by ideological ignorance.

    And a second ad hominem, too. You want to go three-for-three, or have you demonstrated sufficient intellectual bankruptcy for now?


  • rekabis@lemmy.catoAutism@lemmy.worldAnyone else just not get it?
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    Do you enjoy being alone?

    Except that I am not alone. As I mentioned, I am married. 30 years with the same woman as of this year.

    What I wrote is direct, real-world experience dealing with many different women in many different capacities over the decades.

    Everyone does this. Everyone. If you’re about to say you don’t, you’re lying to yourself.

    Try being autistic. There are variants that experience almost no ego to speak of, where reactions are facts first regardless of how the person feels about something.

    Plus, mature men have learned that operating through emotion is a negative-sum game to themselves, and that the best tactic to dealing with anything that affects them personally is via facts, evidence, logic, and reason. That involving emotions at any initial stage causes significant societal backlash because a man demonstrating any significant emotions, especially vulnerable ones, is seen as a weak and unreliable man that cannot be trusted to support others.

    I won’t bother responding to the rest because it’s the world view of someone blinded by their own bitterness and anger.

    Ah, nice combination of sour grapes and an ad hominem. Not exactly the most original path, seeing as how often it’s used to shame men into silence, but it’s invariably the only tool left to those who have no possible counter-argument.


  • rekabis@lemmy.catoAutism@lemmy.worldAnyone else just not get it?
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    Women filter things through their emotions and feelings.

    As such, if their emotions and feelings don’t sit right, the truth must be wrong and needs to be changed to fit their feelings.

    You then become the villain if you continue to debate from a position of factual truth and evidence, because that violates her internal narrative. And she becomes angry because she thinks that if only you cared about how she felt, you would change your facts to better fit her feelings.

    So obviously, you are the toxic and evil one.

    No amount of facts, logic, reason, or rationality can touch even the most reasonable of women to the same degree it can convince an average man. And I am saying this as a married man. I have learned this by painful experience.

    The only way to ever debate or negotiate with a woman is to reframe her emotions and feelings such that facts and evidence just happen align with it; trying to argue from a position of pure facts and evidence in order to demonstrate the correct choice leads to a near-100% failure rate if her feelings do not agree.

    Sure, there are some men who completely ignore facts and evidence, but that arises out of conservative/right-wing ideology - typically Christian-based - which invariably requires the rejection of reality in order to even exist. And there are also men who are led around by their noses by their own emotions and behave like women, but - again - it is an external imposition on them by way of them having been forcibly denied a father figure to learn from when they were younger. So they copied the adult women around them, instead.



  • rekabis@lemmy.catoSelfhosted@lemmy.worldEmail ownership, I give up.
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    1 month ago

    I’ve been running my own eMail server for almost a quarter century, and I have no clue what all the fuss is about.

    Sure, providers are getting very picky about what domains that they will receive eMails from. But that’s why I have gMail, Yahoo, and Microsoft webmail accounts - so I can train their systems by exchanging emails once a quarter.

    And yes, you do have to be running whitelists and blacklists and tarpits and have a good Fail2Ban in place. And good geoIP system if you want to cut out regions that you are unlikely to ever have legitimate mail originate from. But that’s just common sense security.




  • And what these right wingers always conveniently forget is that their religion only tells THEM what to do, it has no impact on anyone else.

    All of these “values” can remain 100% unaffected within themselves, they just want the bigotry of forcibly imposing these “values” on others.

    And that’s their problem - they’re screaming bloody murder because their ability to be tyrannical authoritarians is being taken away.


  • Let me put something else in your pipe to smoke:

    Women rape men as frequently as men rape women.

    And now the real surprise: when asked about experiences in the last 12 months, men reported being “made to penetrate” - either by physical force or due to intoxication - at virtually the same rates as women reported rape (both 1.1 percent in 2010, and 1.7 and 1.6 respectively in 2011).

    In other words, if being made to penetrate someone was counted as rape - and why shouldn’t it be? - then the headlines could have focused on a truly sensational CDC finding: that women rape men as often as men rape women.

    And yet, where are the convictions of female rapists??

    crickets

    If you want to clean house, start with your own.

    And the real kicker comes down to these three points:

    1. It took the FBI until 2015 to even begin recording female-on-male rape as rape, because before then it wasn’t considered rape. And so national law enforcement stats for female-on-make rape in America just don’t exist before 2015.
    2. Many police precincts still use software that hard-codes the victim as female and the perp as male, further frustrating justice by creating “erroneous” records that are trivial to dismiss, and preventing a full accounting of the problem by preventing correct gender identification of the victim and perp.
    3. Almost all men have been brainwashed to think that it is impossible for a woman to rape a man, be it physical or psychological coercion, so many of these male victims don’t even realize they have been victimized.

    And the disparity of how society treats male rapists vs female rapists gets horrifically misandrist once you truly examine the rape of minors.

    Because many male children raped by adult women get traumatized by the legal system as it extracts child support from them to pay their rapist for her crimes. And society celebrates and trivializes these rapes, with the media calling them “trysts” and “romps” and doing everything in its power to absolve the rapists of responsibility by making it look like the child was the aggressor.


  • tons of men in power who never get in trouble.

    Here, people, is an absolutely exquisite example of the Apex Fallacy in action: using the 1% to 0.1% of men that fit the conditions and applying that case to the other 99% who don’t have these characteristics and could never achieve the same prosecutorial immunity.

    For the vast majority of men, even the insinuation of sexual malfeasance is enough to destroy careers and marriages.

    Hell, even good samaritans lose everything, and they did absolutely nothing wrong.


  • Even a “yes” can, and frequently is, converted into a “no” retroactively, sometimes well after the act. It all comes down to feelings before facts and how she personally prefers to interpret the event regardless of the passage of time.

    And unless the entire action is videotaped and notarized, as a man you are defined as being in the wrong 100% of the time.

    Plus, as a man you are also faced with epic levels of societal hypocrisy that you have no ability to counteract, regardless of how things actually went.

    The only rational risk-assessment analysis for any man in the lower-90% is to consider ALL responses a “no”, and to just walk away.


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  • rekabis@lemmy.catoScience Memes@mander.xyzWe're so back
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    2 months ago

    Even with the best medical care, Hantavirus has a 20% fatality rate.

    Let’s just hope that conservatives continue being so anti-vaccine… a few more pandemics with human-transmissible highly-fatal viruses and maybe we can get that socialist utopia that the right always cock-blocks us from achieving.



  • I wouldn’t say the feminists I know believe any of that stuff. Most of them are focused on poverty and rape and how those things affect women.

    I think you need to read this.

    You aren’t the tail which wags the dog in feminist circles. The man-hating gender bigots who lead all these feminist organizations are the ones who control the narrative. The more hateful, spiteful, and extreme they are, the more they get celebrated as role models for young women.