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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Linux since 1.2.13, here.

    Yes, self-hosters can be really focused on their own complex setups, and forget that they’ve become overcomplicated through years and iterations of rebuilds.

    A new bucket to stash all those crabs, though, isn’t it.

    Start the noobs a little lower on the complexity scale, so it doesn’t look like a mandelbrot just to get basic stuff. App installs on a basic host is totally okay, to start.

    Teach and reinforce proper patching and maintenance. Teach man-pages at every turn: promote good ones and take a second look at the bad man-pages because, really, maybe they need updates. Reinforce the “look up before asking;then ask well” routine for discussions and seeking help. Be super-welcoming for good questions, even if the pre-work is “I checked the man page and it didn’t really make sense for that option”, and gently nudge toward a cursory search when even that’s missing.

    We lost a LOT of mentorship after the dotcom bust, and we’ve not been great in the Lost Boy generations that followed. We need to make it easier to get help, and we need to encourage that walk-before-fly mentality.

    And if apps can’t properly package their stuff so that the secure and safe usage is the easy usage, then we steer noobs around it. I’m looking at you, docker-fixated app ‘releases’ without adequate delivery and via channels that aren’t validated normally as part of the process. We need to be so much better at that.


















  • Depends.

    Some I cultivated afterwards - gave some space, and later pitched a “I don’t want to get back together but I miss hanging out. Lemme buy coffee” to usually good effect. If you’re compatible as friends still, it could be a very strong friendship. But you broke up for a reason, so keep that in mind.

    But sometimes you’re really incompatible and a simple friendship isn’t even healthy for you two. That’s okay too.