Perhaps it’s just me and mine. I’m afflicted with a desire to communicate immediately and clearly. My sibling teaches writing with a focus on direct communication. But yeah our parents and grandfolks… We don’t talk about the trauma. You don’t want to hear this. I swear it’s not even that interesting
You offered a contradictory experience to what most of us assume is universal. I’d rather hear your take than immediately write you off. If there’s a way you noticed that autism spectrum people communicate indirectly then that would be interesting
No, it isn’t autism, I don’t think, for my mom and myself. Its ADHD, but none of has been diagnosed. I would say for my mom, it’s extreme posttraumatic stress piled into fuck knows with some absurd speed reading ability and what else amounting to “neurodivergence”. She is highly educated and accomplished, but does not communicate hardly at all. Like, she does, but she’s impossible to understand. A lot of it rubbed off on me, but I am not that smart or that crazy.
Oof okay I think I get it. We were kind of talking over you a bit then by assuming you meant autism. No I’ve also known ADHD people who can be pretty normative with at least their social skills. It kind of makes everyone overlook all the trauma and organizational things that they DO struggle with, especially if they’re women.
I apologize. In my family the nice way to say it was always “mental illness”, and we have it by the ton, but I don’t know whether autism played a role. My grandma raised a heap of kids while also very unwell. Could be for me, but again, post traumatic stress. Also I’m not a woman, but my sister is older and has her own story.
No apology needed at all 👍 this just makes me glad I asked for details. I meant your Mom. She sounds by your description of the situation like how people treat ADHD women who are “high functioning”.
Perhaps it’s just me and mine. I’m afflicted with a desire to communicate immediately and clearly. My sibling teaches writing with a focus on direct communication. But yeah our parents and grandfolks… We don’t talk about the trauma. You don’t want to hear this. I swear it’s not even that interesting
You offered a contradictory experience to what most of us assume is universal. I’d rather hear your take than immediately write you off. If there’s a way you noticed that autism spectrum people communicate indirectly then that would be interesting
No, it isn’t autism, I don’t think, for my mom and myself. Its ADHD, but none of has been diagnosed. I would say for my mom, it’s extreme posttraumatic stress piled into fuck knows with some absurd speed reading ability and what else amounting to “neurodivergence”. She is highly educated and accomplished, but does not communicate hardly at all. Like, she does, but she’s impossible to understand. A lot of it rubbed off on me, but I am not that smart or that crazy.
Oof okay I think I get it. We were kind of talking over you a bit then by assuming you meant autism. No I’ve also known ADHD people who can be pretty normative with at least their social skills. It kind of makes everyone overlook all the trauma and organizational things that they DO struggle with, especially if they’re women.
I apologize. In my family the nice way to say it was always “mental illness”, and we have it by the ton, but I don’t know whether autism played a role. My grandma raised a heap of kids while also very unwell. Could be for me, but again, post traumatic stress. Also I’m not a woman, but my sister is older and has her own story.
No apology needed at all 👍 this just makes me glad I asked for details. I meant your Mom. She sounds by your description of the situation like how people treat ADHD women who are “high functioning”.
Yes, I love my mom and she is eccentric, to say the least