the thing is neurotypical people don’t have as much awareness of the imprecision of language, they just assume they know what you’re saying if they are familiar with all the words you use. this has caused me no end of problems when I say something and the person I’m talking to just chooses an interpretation and assumes thats what I meant and runs with it. half the time that ends up in some kind of minor or major disagreement that could have been avoided if they just asked for some clarification. the really annoying part is it doesn’t seem to matter how precisely I formulate my sentences, how much I hedge against misunderstanding, because sometimes people just make shit up that they think I might say even if it has nothing to do with what I actually said. watch it happen here lol.
lol I think I just realized why I talk the way I do. I’m like constantly trying to pick words with as little ambiguity as possible so people don’t misunderstand me. Yet it happens all the time. So now I often talk like a goofball robot AND people don’t understand the exact intent of my word choices.
I was diagnosed as ADD as a kid, so I’m definitely some amount of ND.
I also have ADHD, not sure about autism spectrum. My current boss gets absolutely frustrated with me because I constantly explain what I mean. He says I knew what you meant when you were halfway through talking, stop explaining yourself. I didn’t even realize how much I do it until I started working for him. I do it so I’m not misunderstood.
It’s funny because he has ADHD as well but is unmedicated. His statements and especially text messages are vague to me. It causes serious communication issues because he gets upset when asked to explain or repeat himself. So I have to either piss him off and get confirmation, or just run with what I think he meant and hope I’m right.
the thing is neurotypical people don’t have as much awareness of the imprecision of language, they just assume they know what you’re saying if they are familiar with all the words you use. this has caused me no end of problems when I say something and the person I’m talking to just chooses an interpretation and assumes thats what I meant and runs with it. half the time that ends up in some kind of minor or major disagreement that could have been avoided if they just asked for some clarification. the really annoying part is it doesn’t seem to matter how precisely I formulate my sentences, how much I hedge against misunderstanding, because sometimes people just make shit up that they think I might say even if it has nothing to do with what I actually said. watch it happen here lol.
lol I think I just realized why I talk the way I do. I’m like constantly trying to pick words with as little ambiguity as possible so people don’t misunderstand me. Yet it happens all the time. So now I often talk like a goofball robot AND people don’t understand the exact intent of my word choices.
I was diagnosed as ADD as a kid, so I’m definitely some amount of ND.
I also have ADHD, not sure about autism spectrum. My current boss gets absolutely frustrated with me because I constantly explain what I mean. He says I knew what you meant when you were halfway through talking, stop explaining yourself. I didn’t even realize how much I do it until I started working for him. I do it so I’m not misunderstood.
It’s funny because he has ADHD as well but is unmedicated. His statements and especially text messages are vague to me. It causes serious communication issues because he gets upset when asked to explain or repeat himself. So I have to either piss him off and get confirmation, or just run with what I think he meant and hope I’m right.