applebusch (she/her)

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Cake day: November 11th, 2024

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  • yes and no. i pick up on a lot thanks to decades of being expected to be a mind reader and a clairvoyant. its honestly painful because a lot of times it doesnt feel like i have a choice but to be hypervigilant, even if im exhausted. it can be pretty useful sometimes, but the problem is i learned this with people who treated me like shit, so theres lots of behaviors that i take with a severely negative implication. when im dealing with someone who isnt trying to manipulate me or hurt me, someone who cares about me, my reading of the implication can be very wrong. this has cost me a lot more than i care to admit over the years. its been really hard trying to let go and trust people to be honest with me, but im making progress.











  • people like to recommend that book but its pretty bad advice for autists in my opinion. its way too vague and doesnt really lay out a central underlying thesis of human socialization, instead relying on the reader already having a basic grasp in the first place. we’re all different but i find having an overarching theory to fall back on much more useful than a loose bag of recommended actions.