• xxce2AAb@feddit.dk
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    2 days ago

    Or knowing precisely what point people are attempting to make five words into the first sentence and then politely having to sit there and wait for the next five minutes while they laboriously meander their way through it.

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      Or knowing precisely what point people are attempting to make five words into the first sentence

      I had that working at a call-center and i’m not autistic (to my knowledge), it just came with experience.

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      How about being a witness to a conversation between two others and you can tell neither of them understand the point the other is trying to make.

      Bonus points for when they actually agree with each other but just haven’t put together what the other is saying.

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        I love that actually. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does I go “hold on, A, you’re trying to say x, but B understands y, whereas B tries to say v and you understand w”

        Always leads to the most flabbergasted double stare when they realize I’m 100% right and they’d have talked past each other for hours.

        Sometimes with an undertone of “but I wanted a fight” by one of them.

      • 🌞 Alexander Daychilde 🌞@lemmy.world
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        Disclaimer: Severe ADHD here

        Those are the times that make me feel like maybe I have the occasional social insight. lol. While I get confused by so much that happens, I often feel like I pick up on subtle clues and situations like that. So I feel it’s a mixed-to-fuck-and-hell bag of social genius and social stupidity. It’s confusing. lol

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        My parents didn’t argue often, but when they did, they always had the opinion. Sometimes it would be half an hour until they decided they could agree.

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      This is a dangerous “skill” to have, though. Very easy to slip into the trap of assuming you know what they’re talking about, only to have them end on a different point than you expected and then suddenly you’re responding to a point they never actually made

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      I can’t do it. I try so hard but I interrupt every time and then they say “that’s not what I mean will you let me finish” then I have to sit quietly while it was exactly what they meant.

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      It’s critically important to develop patience here in order to deal with people getting older and taking this to the next level

      My mom is a great person whom I dearly love but she’s fallen into the stereotype of old people rambling. Nothing is a simple question or statement anymore. It’s always a long meandering story with lots of detours