• jjjalljs@ttrpg.network
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    9 hours ago

    Not every apartment is tiny. I don’t have the measurements for mine but it feels comfortable with two desks, a couch, a coffee table, and some bookcases. Plus there’s the bedroom with a queen size bed, bookcases, another desk, and dresser. The kitchen is admittedly a little small. This isn’t a fancy apartment, and its priced pretty average for the city. I’m pretty sure all the units in this building are about the same.

    I very rarely hear my neighbors. I play music through speakers and (I’ve asked) they never hear me.

    Also no one sees me, so far as I know. For contrast, where my parents live out in the suburbs, neighbors are always creeping on each other and gossiping.

    Now, admittedly, there are many apartments that are tiny, or have shit sound proofing, or whatever. But, again, that is not an inherent property of apartments. Many houses have problems, too.

    People surrounding me watching and listening to everything i do

    Counterintuitively, denser living spaces make you less seen. Not that you’re invisible, but that you don’t register. If I went for a walk out in the suburbs, people would look and see me. They’d be like “Who’s that weirdo walking?” or “Did you see that weird guy with the metal band on his t-shirt?” Someplace denser, I blend in with everyone else and don’t get a second thought. Not even a first thought, most of the time.

    • booly@sh.itjust.works
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      8 hours ago

      I very rarely hear my neighbors.

      Somewhat paradoxically, the soundproofing in big buildings tends to be much better than in smaller buildings. The concrete and steel and thick storm resistant windows and fire doors between unit and hallway required by the building code for tall buildings have so much weight that things like footsteps, moving furniture, and other sources of noise just don’t carry between units.