• skisnow@lemmy.ca
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    16 days ago

    Difficulty: a sizeable proportion of neurotypical people find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if it seems like something that an adult should be able to figure out for themselves.

    As a consequence of this, they’re also not comfortable explaining things that they consider obvious, because they feel like they’re being rude themselves, and may even consider requests for such explanations to be confrontational.

    Yeah I know, we suck

    • Zagorath@aussie.zone
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      6 days ago

      I feel like

      find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if [they already understand the reason]

      can apply just as well to neuro-atypical people as to neurotypicals.

      I don’t think this has to be too complicated though. Don’t explain the reason unless it’s super unobvious, or unless they ask for a reason. If they do ask for the reason, give it in full and without judgment.

    • no banana@piefed.world
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      16 days ago

      Yeah, I’m not too worried personally. I’ve encountered people who felt belittled, or maybe even infantilized, by having things explained to them. I think, ultimately, it comes down to understanding each individual’s personality and how they respond to information. As well as not being rude or disrespectful, of course.