People want connexion. What they (tend to) get is a thin facsimile. Real connexion feels wonderful to me. Superficial, forced social performance feels awful to me. For example, I get nothing from small talk. Either talk about something real with me or go about your day.
Program to abstractions with clear contracts. Advice since the 1950s.
Why do you folks continue to resist?
Depend on abstractions. This isn’t hard. 🤷
I can still speak vim, but I drive helix daily.
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Fuck’s sake.
Imagine vim designed today.
“Earning a living”.
I recommend the book The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate for some possible insights.
I recommend loving kindness meditation, also known as “metta”. There is an old saying that 1 hour of metta for a troublesome person is worth 100 hours of other kinds of meditation. I have used it to help me work through and (mostly) get past my feelings for the troublesome people in my life, even including an alcoholic and abusive parent.
Metta for myself also helps me make peace with how I feel, the constant “on guard” mode, which I know helped me survive, but isn’t needed to that degree any longer. It makes sense that I am this way. It’s not always fun, but I’m also not broken.
There is so much more, but I offer you this as a place to start. I hope that others give you helpful ideas.
Peace.
You mean like this post?
Svenska är inte mitt språk, men svaret är självklart skånska.
I would be shocked if a place like that existed that didn’t charge a monthly membership fee, but I’m prepared to be proven wrong. I hope you find it!
Helix? I’ve never noticed a security problem.
At some point I stopped listening to him
Excellent. Sometimes, you are simply the person available for them to scream at. In situations such as that, pretending to listen without listening represents a useful strategy.
I hope you can make it past this incident soon. Time means distance means peace.
Count the "r"s in the word “strawberry”.
It just answered 2.