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Cake day: September 15th, 2023

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  • Going temporarily mute can be a really weird experience, and is something I imagine is very personal to the individual. When it happens to me, I usually end up wanting to be wrapped up in a blanket or thick hoodie in the dark in a soft, quiet place like my bed. Sometimes I’ll stim with a toy or something, and sometimes I’ll just kind of dissociate until I have the energy to speak again. If you haven’t already heard of it, Stim Punks Foundation has some amazing content: (this links to their situational mutism page). Here’s a great graphic from them that might help too. It’s cut off but the full thing is on that page I linked and includes sources with further reading.


  • Yep, allllll the time. I can’t sleep without white noise because I’ll fixate on things like cars passing or the a/c kicking on. I swear I can feel every hair on my head some nights and they’re somehow twisted the wrong direction. I have sensitive skin too, so I’ll randomly get hives/red itchy splotches that are maddening when trying to sleep. If I get actual bug bites I have to put bandaids over them so I don’t feel them rubbing against any fabric because I’ll scratch them bloody even when unconscious. Fun times.


  • I’ve had insomnia my entire life. Can’t sleep more than 4-5 hours at a time because of horrible/strange dreams/nightmares. Falling asleep is the worst of it, and the tiniest of disturbances (a noise, sensory issue like with the bedding) can dysregulate me to the point of distress making it hard to relax and pass out. I only slept well during times of heavy thc use, but those days are long gone. I need white noise, total darkness, and clean bedding to fall asleep these days and it’s never a guarantee.










  • Ooo a turtleneck would look great under a dress! So, shapes are probably the easiest way to look for dresses and skirts. “A-line” is the best for fitting all body types, and will usually give you that traditional flared shape at the bottom with the smallest part at the waist. If you want something more tight/closer to the legs try ‘sheathe’ skirt, and super tight skirts that wrap really close to the legs will be ‘pencil’ skirt. (I’d only recommend pencil skirts if you got a big booty with wide hips, but that’s personal preference; those mfers are hard to move in)

    As for the kind of dress you were looking for, try ‘square neck sleeveless’ in your search. That should give you something close to the pic I’ll attach. If you want smaller straps than that remove the square neck part and just try ‘sleeveless’. You can also look for ‘work style’ or ‘uniform dress’ which might give you that shape too. A ‘romper dress’ might get you close, but I think those sometimes have shorts sewn under the skirt.

    For shoes a ‘flat’, ‘ballerina flat’, ‘loafer’, or some boots would look cute with this kind of dress. If you like the school uniform shoe look try ‘mary janes’, they usually have a rounded toe with a lil strap across the top.

    “Women’s” clothes are all over the place in sizes, so measure yourself if you can, and when in doubt order larger, cuz they’re horrible at consistency. “Men’s” clothes are way easier for getting sizes right, so those shirts are way more comfy.

    I put a lot, but hope it helps, love! Happy shopping!




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    5 months ago

    If I remember correctly, a pinafore is more like an apron style that has straps/buttons and a romper is worn over a sweater or shirt, but I’m not good at fashion so don’t quote me on that. I just want to encourage everyone to try be their most genuine self and sometimes knowing a term to search for can help get you started. I assumed corduroy because of the color!





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    If that part doesn’t bother you and never has, then that’s the end of that. I have excellent hearing on top of being unable to process and filter certain stimuli. Autism very much coincides with ADHD on a lot of criteria, so again, it can be very difficult to diagnose, but if you’re really determined to get a yes or no answer your best bet is with a doctor. Also, if you’ve been heavily masked all your life, trying to break through that mask for the first time can feel overwhelming and can bring old trauma to the surface. It’s common to feel like you’re regressing as you re-frame your thinking to include those neurospicy tendencies. This community doesn’t get a lot of attention, so if you’re looking for more shared experiences head over to the Neurodiverse comm on Hexbear. They helped me with so much when I was going through the diagnosis process and understanding the very personal, very human aspects of what it means to be Autistic. Hope you find whatever is you’re looking for out of this.