I think two things that are common causes of sibling bad feelings are differences in treatment, and handling of sibling conflicts, both of which can create feelings of unfairness and resentment.

I don’t have prescriptions for those things. Kids are different and necessarily need to be treated differently. But one should be aware of how this can feel unfair to one sibling. And be aware of how your need to end conflicts and restore order can again wind up being unfair to one sibling.

I think the hardest thing is being able to see things from their points of view.

If they were asking 10 zipped individually vs a single zip, I didn’t get that, because that’s not what their phrasing actually said. But you might be right, that would make more sense to ask.

Wouldn’t trying it out and seeing how much it saved be about the same amount of work as typing in this question?

Ha! I am no different than she wrt things like my neighbors cars!

It frequently amazes me what people don’t absorb or remember, like whole sentences of a 4 sentence email or text message. I’m not under any illusion that I am exempt from this, but what we see and others miss is of course more apparent to us.

This is really fascinating to me. Do you mind my asking, with no intended disrespect, how intelligent your wife is? And did she have any kind of unusually isolated situation for much of her life?

I’ll just offer one particular situation. I have a door to my kitchen that is metal and glass like a sliding door but swings on a hinge. More mass than a typical wooden door and it swings on the hinge very freely, no resistance to slow it down. So it swings with pretty much the velocity you give it, and it requires a decent amount to make it latch.

Commonly I go in or out with stuff in my hands so I can rarely close it slowly and carefully. I end up giving it a little shove, often with my foot. If you get the force just right, it will latch with out being loud, but it has to be just right. Any less and it doesn’t latch. Any more and it slams pretty loudly. It’s really hard to get right, an not slam it more loudly than you intend. And I’m sensitive to noise so it’s not like I don’t care. But with this particular door it’s hard to avoid.

A lot of advice is like medicine. Whether it is good or bad for you depends on what you are or aren’t suffering from

Sorry, my bad. Desktop Firefox and spinoffs has this but not Android.

I think they probably all do. But by default they go right to a default profile without prompting you to choose. There is usually a way to create a new profile if your look in the menus.

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I have no idea about Navidrome, but I completely agree with the gist of this article. Actively choose the music you listen to. When the music you’ve chosen has run out, if you’re not motivated to make another choice, let the music stop and enjoy quiet for a while.

Tolerance and humanization are not the same thing. Understanding that terrible behaviors are human does not mean we must tolerate them.

On the one hand them refusing to share this data is very problematic, on the other hand what the most viewed posts are is determined by their algorithm, and so a distortion of what is “popular”. Sharing and giving users control over those algorithms is the more important issue that should be receiving focus.

I want to predict that they end up to acquiescing to the demand for “most viewed” data so they can pretend to be all responsible. Seems like a distraction.

I am totally ignorant about this kind of software, but it seems like the ultimate solution is to extract your data from it. Has anybody done any work around cracking their data format? Or what about Adobe’s? Could their be a path like having Abode import your data from Capture and then use some Abode export crack to get it into some more open format?

I always wonder why I don’t see XMPP mentioned more in conversations like this.

I use POPFile, open source software that classifies email into whatever categories you set up using a Bayesian algorithm (so you train it). It works as a proxy so it does it when your download email, so not a solution to your inbox filling up unless your can figure out how to run it on the server automatically.

It tags the email with a header and I use Thunderbird filters to move mail to folders for spam, adverts, political spam, and regular inbox.

It’s abandonware but it still works and doesn’t really need any more features IMO.

No that’s what comes out of the butt.

45 degrees in time is about 1:08

OK, sorry, I misread “I couldn’t resist, and they couldn’t watch me all the time” as meaning you were tickling their feet in front of them and they couldn’t bear to watch.

That’s why the military had never allowed long hair or beards.