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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • I’m female and bi and it is definitely noticeable when someone is staring at my chest and it is very uncomfortable. When I was younger there were certain guys that rarely looked me in my face and were just looking at my chest the whole time. I asked other girls about it and they agreed they too felt them gazing at their chests and it was really uncomfortable and off-putting for them as well. If you wanna help then tell them discreetly to tighten their bra straps. Otherwise I don’t find it acceptable to stare at a woman’s chest. A glance maybe but you should really be looking at their faces. People are not meat or eye candy, don’t objectify them, just remember the person they are inside. There may be women ok with it and like flaunting it but that’s not been my personal experience.


  • I have to use unlined panache bras, all the bras I tried getting in other american brands with like foam cups didn’t fit right. I’m American and used the abrathatfits calculator. I went up a band size to 36 since the original 34 band recommended was kinda tight so I’m a 36E (UK). Amazon is great for trying and returning bras. Otherwise there is nowhere else to shop locally for me besides the big corpo stores that only sell ill fitted bras. Honestly if I want to look cute I wear panache bras, otherwise I wear 2xl sports bras with the pads taken out.



  • I think people are too terminally online and use these phrases to justify being an ass to someone not in the know. In reddit it was always a mod getting pissed at someone having a different opinion (and no I’m not talking about being racist as a different opinion) or asking questions because they don’t know about the subject. They cry sealion and ban the person. Other people say I don’t think they were a sealion, and get banned too. Really it seems more like a, “I disagree and have nothing more to say and now will ban you.”

    I think it’s fine to ask questions, and point out if there is a flaw in someone’s logic. If someone wants to stop talking then that’s fine and should be respected. But this comic makes it seem like the lady is racist for no reason and the sea lion is fine until the last 3 panels when the sea lion doesn’t leave after being told to go away.

    I’ve heard this term before from a power mod and I’m surprised that this comes from a webcomic that doesn’t even fit any time I’ve seen someone cry sealion. When I read the Wikipedia page it describes something else than the comic which I can agree more with, the author is quoted as saying, “The core of what I set out to criticize is just the notion that any random patient stranger should feel entitled to as much of someone’s attention as they want.” Idk the rest of the Wikipedia page talks more of mind reading, you can’t tell what someone means online since there is no tone and you don’t know the other person well enough. If they are just doing the first 3 panels then it is fine. The last time I saw a “sealion” happen was when mods of a sub announced a new unpopular rule that they knew people would leave the sub because of and anyone who disagreed were called a sealion and banned.

    Sorry for ranting about this, I just now was reminded of why I hate this term that is usually misused because of your comment. Feel free to ignore me, I don’t think I deserve some random person’s undivided attention, plus arguments/debates stress me out anyway.



  • Most people here are white or Asian. A small minority are Native Hawaiians and/or other pacific islander (the census lumps them together). And Lahaina was full of tourists on the regular since it had actual resorts there. You can say the government here has always been incompetent and doesn’t really care about poor people and how they get priced out of living here. If you told me most Natives have left Hawaii because it’s too expensive I would believe it, that would make sense. But environmental racism? Make it make sense.