It is a complete answer, but it also makes a lot of people feel like they don’t know something they should. Repeatedly feeling that way is why they start to get defensive. In my experience. Its the repeated asking of questions they don’t have “good” answers for. And so I try really hard when people share things with me to pay extra attention to how they are reacting to my questions.

The same structure holds true when I’m asking questions about peoples beliefs or any other topic. People really hate feeling caught out in a conversation. My girlfriend almost broke up with me towards the beginning of our relationship for being “too Socratic.” And so now I try to be more conscious about what I ask, and when, where, why, and how I ask them. So far it’s been working pretty well.

Anyway your experiences are your own, my point here was and still is that people don’t react this way because they are stupid or incapable of self reflection but because sometimes we really do come off justly or unjustly as interrogators, and it’s on us to learn to identify when that’s happening and back off.

It is very real. I have experienced it myself. And when it happens I try to recognize that I am not a bad person, and neither are they. Sometimes you trip somebody else’s insecurities. And it’s on them when they let those insecurities get the best of them, and it’s on me when i don’t notice they’re getting uncomfortable because they’ve said “idk man I just started this hobby” three times and instead of taking the hint and high fiving them for their kickass walking artillery robot miniature I ask what brand of paint they used and why. Spoiler: they used it because the dude at the store recommended it and they don’t know anything about paint. Sometimes it is unreasonable to expect someone to be an expert, and repeatedly asking questions beyond the scope of their expertise is incredibly rude because it embarrasses them. That doesn’t make anyone stupid or evil. It just makes us human.

My objection here is that the linked tweet avoids any accountability. “I’m just curious and therefore virtuous, and they are triggered because they lack self reflection” is beyond insufferable, it is corrosive. When you think like that it feels like self acceptance, but it’s also complacency. Conversation is hard, especially for autistic people, but that doesn’t give us license to act like jerks and refuse to learn from the experience.

I think it’s a little unfair to brand the other person as avoidant of self-reflection, as if that’s just a core personality trait and not something that varies contextually. This kind of therapy-speak in inappropriate venues is such a huge red flag. No, you did not “trigger” the other person. You hurt their feelings on accident. That happens, but your measure lies in how you respond to having unintentionally hurt someone. This tweet reeks of “I acted like a shitty person, and now to soothe the feeling of my superego poking my ego I will go online and paint the person I was a dick to as an unreasonable person through oversimplified vagueposting.”

edit: With half an hour of distance between me and this comment it now feels important that I point out that I’m not calling out anyone ITT. Just the original poster on Twitter. Weaponized therapyspeak really, ahem, triggers me. I’ve been on both sides of this dynamic, and both sides can really ruin my day. I just really hate it when people try to avoid accountability for their behavior by using detached and clinical language. Ironically, the author of the linked tweet is avoiding self-reflection in real time. It’s just… goddamn, dude. This shit is serious. You can really hurt somebody when you start talking like unregistered therapy tiktokers. Don’t ask me how I know, that part’s private.

because the number of likes you get is proportional to the number of people who see it, not how amazing the thing you posted is

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I think that falls under “back to the drawing board.” Functionally there’s little difference between talking to a model and taking a call. If management is pushing them to dictate and it’s causing a problem they should put them in cubes.

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There have been many news reports and rumors circulating about the Halo franchise recently, particularly concerning remakes. After the successful remake of the first game, it appears that remakes for Halo 2 and Halo 3 are also in development. Players have been eager to learn about new installments in the series, but it seems that a new multiplayer-focused game will not be released.

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they are OK with anything that make line go up.

Fuck if I know, all I know is you can sit next to a blender in a busy office full of crying babies and barking dogs while writing a dissertation on an electric typewriter and the person on the other end of the line would never be able to tell. Professional headsets (like in the $300-$500 range) are honestly pretty incredible. If these silicon valley offices are too noisy for a high end EOS to handle, or if they genuinely have that many people constantly talking all day to the point that it’s a problem then they need to go back to the drawing board. Steno masks have their place but for anything a garden variety techbro is doing they’re either performative bullshit or a lazy bandaid. I guaranfuckingtee bossman has no interest in putting one of these on.

high end office headsets already have excellent isolation, wearing a muzzle is just a humiliation ritual.

fellas, it’s okay to gently tell your lady that while the shopping trip has been fun you are getting hungry/tired and would like to leave soon

i will never understand why people find it so difficult to prepare and eat avocado.

1. Slice and twist
2. Whack the pit and twist
3. Spoon

And yet people struggle. Many go to the hospital. Why? Why is this so hard?

Don’t worry, someday nuclear war will knock the internet offline and you’ll never have to hear about american politics again

Management lives in a different reality. I’ve never worked in a back office environment, but everywhere I have worked even “hands on” middle and upper management tends to stay in their bubble. On the rare occasion they do site visits there’s plenty of warning, so store managers scrimp on labor during the leadup and then overstaff relative to normal conditions to make sure everything looks perfect. It is very difficult for middle management and up to get a clear picture of what is actually happening because there’s no incentive to be honest. Being honest actually gets you punished, because when everyone else lies honesty makes you look incompetent.

sorry, what’s bait here? They’re just being belligerent. That’s not bait. Was what you posted bait? Why would you admit that?

i know it looks bad but he actually likes this

do you condemn the horse?

horse plinko