This probably bangs with autistic chicks

Honestly, no doubt there’s truth there, as I think a lot of guys focus on making their dicks look big because from a typical straight(… actually gay too) guys perspective on sex, like thinking about sex from a mans perspective as if you were a woman, its like, you gotta make the lightning rod spark. Like the weight of the dick is elevated much more than the types of shit women want to see more of, like a lot of veiny-ness (which I think I can speak for the average man in saying, we generally don’t like on women (I think gay men differ from men here)), that brooding batman style of posing, the arms, forearms, and some chest hair, a confident and slightly domineering position, etc. Heck, I’m probably even somewhat wrong there.

I do think women tend to do this quite a bit as well, with all that weird duck lip, hand under chin, Victorian era poses, theatre kid coy, kinda “Sappho and her friend” leaning photos where to a lot of guys its like, Eyyy, show off all of that thing (where that thing is honestly a lot of things), or give me some “Ill be like this for you [sir/daddy/baby/pet/insert favourite pet name]”.

I dunno. It just all feels like I think people find it hard to conceptualize what the other person is truly looking for out of a photo because despite being into each other, people don’t really share their photo preferences in particular, and you can’t even necessarily transfer what you know about the other person in bed to what they’ll think looks good in a photo because the scenario is so different.

That being said, I really do think most pictures from both, dare I say all (to be more inclusive), tend to still ultimately, on average, be just mid.

Like no one is opening up their curtains, buying diffuse lighting, taking a hundred different shots, story boarding their angles, making sure all the money showpieces are hairless, or appropriately and perfectly haired or whatever it is for whoever it’s intended for, dehydrating to lean up, etc.

Like, to get nice photos, you basically have to become a NSFW content creator without the monetary incentive, and that’s a lot of work when the other person probably appreciate that time a lot more in person.

It’s actually ok!

In reality, there wouldn’t be a void, but instead, simply a severe obstruction of flow!

Instead, both sides would be filled with decreasingly oxygenated blood as your heart continues to be less and less capable of oxygenating itself, eventually succumbing after a spat of looking like this robotic art piece.

You fucking wish.

In reality nudes from women look shit too.

People just generally give women a pass/see women as more attractive for the same equivalent level of attractiveness or effort for the photo. They also feel much more pressured by society to be all "WOW! I’ve never seen tits in my life!!! Magnifico! ✨✨🍆*

Nudes suck.

Thats my hot take.

The fucking suck, the person sending them expects you to receive them like they’re gods gift to green earth and they’re (the photos, not the person) just mid, so you have to act like you’re a pavloved chimpanzee in full caveman mode so excited by this barely lit could be big foot sighting.

At best nudes are an indication the person sending you them wants to fuck.

They’re not jerk off material. They’re barely semi chub material.

They’re just… mid.

Could be the hottest person imaginable and they’d still be mid.

Its ultimately just a poorly taken picture with poor lighting, with someone who (reasonably) won’t be bending over backwards to send you page 34 of the Kama Sutra.

It would be so fucking nice if it was deemed socially appropriate to say “Look lady, I don’t need to see a 15th picture of your gooch from the same fucking angle” (but you know, with tact), but instead if you ever were to do that, they’d misinterpret your message as “I’m not all that sexually interested in you” rather than “I’m not all that sexually interested in every piece of evidence there is for extraterrestrial UFOs existing, but in a vaguely human shape”.

Just a bit of a rant I hope was humorous but like seriously, I thought a few years back… probably like 15-20 years back, we all kinda agreed that nudes were stupid for security and revenge porn reasons, but now it seems the world is back at it again, for seemingly no reason, because next to no one is actually masturbating to these, and its like, just some fun chatting would get across the same effect or more, because it could display more personal knowledge of the other persons preferences and your desire for them.

Bah.

It’s so insulting they add flavour text like this as if to call you a fucking moron to your face

Have never seen any rules about that nor been banned, and I do it pretty frequently.

I think this is a misunderstanding.

None of this comment is particularly targeted at you.

The you at the start of the second sentence is a general you, not you you.

No

I have multiple accounts there and also realize that if I get banned I cant just encourage people to check out decentralized forms of communication

Oh absolutely. No hope at all.

I mean there are literally people getting disappeared off the streets, and they think standing up to them means recording the person getting brutalized and hauled off to who knows where to have who knows what done to them.

Turns out stupid fat Americans was a more poignant criticism than anyone expected.

Never.

The people with the guns feel like discrimination is when people ostracize them for being bigoted as fuck.

The people without the guns have been baked mentally into not only thinking violence is not the answer, but strikes, civil disobedience, or even mentioning politics “”“at the wrong time”“” are not answers as well.

This will go to its logical conclusion of trump having absolute control, no one fighting back, people ending up in death camps, and all that will matter to the rest of us at that point is whether or not we can convince the US to keep it within their borders (they won’t, and Im not sure what happens there, but I am afraid).

Fascism requires an out group, and once they’ve killed or subjugated all their black and brown people (a huuuge chunk of their population), they’ll find some other group to attack.

I think a huge part of the problem is that us, marginalized groups, we can’t fucking agree to band together. LGBTQ2S+ will have crazy things like ostracizing bisexuals, or like being prejudice towards black people. Black people return the favour as they have Latino people who are prejudiced against them and other latino people. Heck there are various groups of black people who are prejudiced against other groups of black people.

When you look at crazy shit like the numbers of Cubans who support trump, its because just like all of his other voters, their single voter issue is that they hate some other demographic of people more than they care about any other subject. That is how they were able to ignore the red flags.

Until marginalized people realize that the strength they have in numbers can indeed not find some magical compromise that excludes the specific group of people they hate, there is no way they’ll have any noteworthy resistance, and this is as the regime consolidates more power and removes more and more of them from their ranks such that they won’t be sabotaged from within.

Vance is a sock puppet.

You celebrate main perpetrators and orchestrators not the goons.

Its so nice to be able to say you hope the fascist dies.

We now live in such a world where you can’t wish for evil dictators to die lest the billionaire who owns the platforms you use has his sensibilities upset.

I doubt they are unable to read an analog clock. Most adults are.

I am not able to read cursive though.

Like I can guess enough of it, but I just don’t encounter it enough to remember it.

Like imagine if you hadn’t tied a tie in 50 years. Would you still remember how?

Its not a useful skill, and anyone who wants to learn can do so in a few minutes of searching.

Europe has a lot more cultural attachment to their buildings as they have histories that go back a lot longer.

Murica, doesn’t and its part of why they have such awful car centricity.

The car lobbyists were basically allowed to design American cities.

I keep thinking theres gotta be a drug that gets you into that state, but alas pharmaceutical companies have not found the magic money maker, so plain ol stimies help a bit.

I find your idea that a comment ought be positive rather displeasing. I think its a bit of toxic positivity whereby useful criticism is muted for no good reason other than vibes.

The big point though, is that you simplifying my comment down to positive or negative, going so far as to imply that my comments said anything like “give up” is completely out of order.

Someone in a dark place does not want to be belittled by advice that minimizes the actual difficulty of the situation they’re in and the hard work and process they’ll need to go through to get out of it.

This idea that people magically are just happier with light, trite advice is inane to me.

It also seems utterly empathy lacking to dump on self-pity like people aren’t allowed to be sad, like thats a failure of the person.

Quite frankly you come across as someone who pretends to care so they can beat down others with their opinions and feel smarter/better by using weaponized civility. Its all frustrating and it feels like you have tried your best to egg on confrontation here with how wildly you misrepresented what I’ve said.

I can’t say that this advice is relevant for those with ADHD, but the fact that your first response wasn’t to investigate whether their advice was useful

One-sentence prescriptions for a complex problem are rarely actionable. “see a professional” is at least concrete but obviously still has problems as described. “just start” or “regulate emotions” both lack actionability and detail. They both name outcomes while offering no practical advice to reach said outcomes. More than that, they downplay and minimize how hard this actually is. It’s belittling to people who are struggling, and I responded in a polite manner to what, to be honest, was very frustrating to read.

Your follow-up comes off as scolding rather than engaging in good faith. The fact I expanded in a later comment which was ignored in favour of chastising me for not praising the near-truism is more frustrating still.

Therapy is very expensive (many insurance companies only cover a minuscule amount of visits per time period), hard to access, has few options (for many people), and is exactly the type of thing you need to shop around in (like you need a therapist that is not only decent, but also cares about you (in a patient doctor sense) and communicates with you well).

More than that, even when that lines up, its nowhere near the nearly instant/fast or surefire process so many people imply it is online.

More than all of that, the idea that you need to go to therapy to learn something indicates that its not really actionable advice.

It’s abit like how saying the solution to having good politicians is to take the money out of politics.

We all know that, but the path to achieving it is clearly where the real difficulty is, and so the initial statement ends up not actually being useful to anyone, as it isnt what the actual goal is, and in this case, a psychologist might just have a different plan/words they use as the goal for you based on how they do things.

Nice idea, in theory, just like many other mental quick tips that also equate to “just do it”