• ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    8 hours ago

    Tbf women say they find just interacting with men at all intimidating, see: Bears. I just don’t talk to anyone anymore tbh.

    I’m gonna die alone with my cats, but at least I won’t be called creepy for asking a woman out for coffee!

    Use the apps

    No, privacy nightmare.

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      29 minutes ago

      Women won’t let men leave until they’ve squashed a bug that’s 20 feet away from them. The bear thing was always bullshit.

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      5 hours ago

      Don’t trust what the loud voices say.

      Many, if not most, women are normal humans like you, looking for interaction like you.

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        7 hours ago

        Edit: Whoops wrong comment! H/o.

        Sure it’s a blanket statement, so you’re of the opinion I should be asking more strangers out in public then?

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          Don’t start talking to them with the intent to ask them out. Just see if you can get their attention, see of you can find a little bit of common ground to build a conversation on, then, if they are receiving you well over the course of your conversation, say something like “hey, I enjoyed talking to you, would you mind meeting up some other time?” or something to that effect. This works best in places for socializing, bars, music venues, hobby spaces, etc. It can be applied to more formal places, just has to happen over a broader period of time, as you get to know your coworkers, or whatever.

          The strong vibes of “my intent in talk to you is to have sex” is, often, what makes things uncomfortable. So, even if you can’t find common ground, or the conversation went well and she turns you down, or gives some non-committal answer, and you part ways amicably, you will have not be seen as some creep.

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          6 hours ago

          It’s possible to talk to random women without seeming intimidating. Always leave an easy out. Don’t be pushy. Be casual. The thing people don’t get is they try to just fish for numbers. Sometimes, just a compliment and never talking to her again is what you need.

          But, the best way to meet new people for relationships is to meet new friends. Every person you meet opens a ton of opportunities for experiences and connections.

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      8 hours ago

      No that’s not fair, they do not. Don’t be creepy in the elevator, or alone in the woods, or anywhere else where you guys are gonna say “because of the implication”.

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        7 hours ago

        Also don’t ask women out at the gym, at work, in a store, on the street, or any hobby where they just want to enjoy themselves and not have to be asked out politely or otherwise.

        The only acceptable places according to women are on the apps and in bars, or church supposedly if you’re one of those.

        I don’t do the privacy violating apps, I don’t drink much anymore, and both of those are more “hook up” culture while I want like “an actual relationship,” and church just isn’t for me. Like, I could go hang out but I’m not going to believe in your gods, and that is a point of contention with the faithful.