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    That’s fair, and not an unreasonable choice. What I can’t get over is people acting like that’s the only reasonable choice, and that people who have children are idiots.

    Just look around in this thread and you’ll see some smug ass attitudes. It kind of reminds me of those 14 year old kids who feel immensely smart because they’re atheist, you know?

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        Ok lol, my point remains exactly the same and I think your viewpoint is incredibly reductive.

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            I don’t think it’s objectively and clearly unethical, so I think your claim that it is is wrong.

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              The only way to experience suffering is to be alive. The only way to be born is without consent

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                So? The only way to contribute to community is to be alive. The only way to feel joy is to be alive.

                Consent doesn’t make sense for a nonexistant being.

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                  Is the joy worth the pain? What if they don’t want to contribute to a community? Can you guarantee the joy will outweigh the pain? What gives you the right to will another being into existence?

                  If the being will become conscious and self aware, why doesn’t their consent matter?

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                    Is the joy worth the pain?

                    Is the pain justifying withholding joy?

                    What if they don’t want to contribute to a community?

                    Humans are a social species. That’s like asking: “What if it doesn’t want to drink?”

                    Can you guarantee the joy will outweigh the pain?

                    Since when are we modeling everything we do on guaranteed knowledge?

                    What gives you the right to will another being into existence?

                    Rights aren’t given. They’re negotiated. I negotiate the right with the person that conceives the child with me.

                    If the being will become conscious and self aware, why doesn’t their consent matter?

                    Consent doesn’t matter for hypothetical futures.

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                  What if you bring a child into the world that’s born with a major, incurable defect?

                  Life is not always full of joy, in fact, for many it’s devoid of it. I think really good points are being made here against children.

                  I don’t believe it’s necessarily immoral to have kids, but I DO think it’s a serious grey area. It’s emphatically not the positive action society makes it out to be.

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                    What if you bring a child into the world that’s born with a major, incurable defect?

                    What’s your point? That disabled people’s lives aren’t worth anything? 🤨

                    Life is not always full of joy, in fact, for many it’s devoid of it.

                    ummm, source? O.o

                    Also: live can be better, you know. Just because life sucks for some today, doesn’t mean it can’t improve in the future. That’s simply a defeatist stance.

                    I think really good points are being made here against children.

                    I’ve yet to see one, tbh.

                    I don’t believe it’s necessarily immoral to have kids, but I DO think it’s a serious grey area.

                    I think, the question alone shows a misunderstanding of existence: not everything can be cathegorized into “good” and “bad”.

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                I really appreciate this point of view. I don’t strongly find myself on either side of the isle here, but I think you are making stronger points than those supporting the mainstream opinion that procreation is essential and important.

                The argument against you seems to be “but there have been worse times to have kids, and people still had them.” That is emphatically not a good argument.

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                  I think I have a fairly cynical view that reproduction is primarily a selfish act based solely on our biological drive to continue our species. I’ve pondered for a long time, and I fail to see a more logical conclusion than that.

                  Life is tough and there are no guarantees. Rolling the dice by having a kid seems like a messed up thing to do imo.

                  That said, I would adopt a child or children. That’s a better way to ensure you are putting kindness and hope into the world where it’s needed, rather than creating another vessel for pain from whole cloth.

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      You’re awfully judgy for someone who doesn’t like other people judging you for having kids.

      Just let people have a difference of opinion to you. It’s okay if some people look down on your choices. This is inevitable in life.

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        1. I don’t even have kids lol
        2. Calling people out for being condescending is not the same as being condescending. This reeks of the same mentality that people who unironically say hating racists makes you hateful and therefore just as bad as racists have.