I ask because growing up it happened almost every single year to the point where, whenever I went to the doctor, I would get severe anxiety. I got a physical once for nursing school and the APRN said my heart sounded like I was having severe anxiety, I was 20 something years old.
I understand that, generally, providers do this to check on people’s development, such as testicles dropping, hair, deformities, etc.
But then I hear people talking about how that was never their experience. Ever.
When I have kiddos, I want them to feel safe around the doctor. I want them to feel like they have autonomy over their own body, not the doctor just pulling your shit down and touching you while you are laying down.
TIA
There are stuff doctors need to check, like you said, for boys the development of the testicles and the genitals in general. If done properly and with forewarning it should be fine. But doctors can vary in communication skill from person to person, so one might make the whole thing non-chalant or fun even, others might induce trauma. I think it’s a normal thing, but the devil is in the how.
Drs can be callous asses.
But also a Dr could be a pedo and doing what was technically valid, but inappropriately enjoying it. OP could have been intuitively picking up on that.