Oh I hate this. They tell me something interesting, I ask questions because I’m genuinely curious. And now they’re offended because they think I’m questioning what they just said.
My uncle is further on a spectrum than me, and when I was young I hated when he does this. You tell the story, and there is a passing character that doesn’t matter, but now he asks a lot of info about that one. Used to drive me crazy. The story is about a cute dog in a hat I saw on a train, it doesn’t matter how old was the dude that walked past it and also complemented the hat. It doesn’t matter where was the train going. A dog was wearing a hat, who cares how many people was also on a train.
I now understand better why he was asking the questions
Young kids are like this, unable to parse what the is important and not important in any given story. They grow out of it pretty quickly, by maybe 10, at least in my experience. We’re neurotypical (as far as I know).
For my special interests I don’t mine follow up questions at all, in fact I like them. But most normal stories or narratives are fairly linear and there’s no need to follow every thread.
Of course, but when listening to a story it’s usually polite to listen to the person telling the story and what they want to tell you, what they deem important.
Ah, well, there are many of them. Collecting ancient coins, for example. Messing around with Reticulum, an alternative network structure. Right now also shooting pistols, just started that some months back. Byzantine history… linguistics, particularly parts of speech in a typological perspective. And many others 😂 but as a dad of 3 I don’t get to spend enough time on them all.
Oh I hate this. They tell me something interesting, I ask questions because I’m genuinely curious. And now they’re offended because they think I’m questioning what they just said.
My uncle is further on a spectrum than me, and when I was young I hated when he does this. You tell the story, and there is a passing character that doesn’t matter, but now he asks a lot of info about that one. Used to drive me crazy. The story is about a cute dog in a hat I saw on a train, it doesn’t matter how old was the dude that walked past it and also complemented the hat. It doesn’t matter where was the train going. A dog was wearing a hat, who cares how many people was also on a train.
I now understand better why he was asking the questions
Young kids are like this, unable to parse what the is important and not important in any given story. They grow out of it pretty quickly, by maybe 10, at least in my experience. We’re neurotypical (as far as I know).
For my special interests I don’t mine follow up questions at all, in fact I like them. But most normal stories or narratives are fairly linear and there’s no need to follow every thread.
importance in the eye of the beholder
Of course, but when listening to a story it’s usually polite to listen to the person telling the story and what they want to tell you, what they deem important.
Wanna share a special interest here maybe? Seems a good thread for it.
Ah, well, there are many of them. Collecting ancient coins, for example. Messing around with Reticulum, an alternative network structure. Right now also shooting pistols, just started that some months back. Byzantine history… linguistics, particularly parts of speech in a typological perspective. And many others 😂 but as a dad of 3 I don’t get to spend enough time on them all.
I hear that. I am taking a look at:
https://reticulum.network/
Thanks! Sounds like the kind of stack that might help in post apocalyptic scenarios.
Hope to see you on RetiBooks then! 😊
Indeed
Oh yes…all the time. Either that or you’ll just hit a wall of “uh I don’t know?” Or “Why do you want to know such weird things?”.