I was talking with someone today and realized I did something I do quite often that might be a trait that gets me into trouble: I boldly state my preference for (or against) something.
In this case, it was being tired of classic rock from a lifetime of overexposure. I think I offended the person, but saved it by clarifying that I’m mostly tired that there is a play list of seemingly 100-songs that have been in continual rotation for 50 years.
Anyway, it occurs to me that I’m just stating my preferences and I personally thing that’s fine and normal, but that people get personally offended if you don’t like what they like; which makes no sense to me. It’s like if you don’t like bland food, I’m not going to get offended because I can’t handle anything hotter than black pepper. It doesn’t ultimately mean anything significant.
Thoughts, ideas, suggestions?
Bluntly and without artifice."i’m tired of classic rock’’ or such.
As opposed to, “I like a lot of classic rock songs–I have a Zeppelin CD in my car right now–but, overall, I think I’ve heard enough of the limitted play list that’s available on commercial radio.”
Biggest problem is that it shuts down the conversation.
If you partner it with what you do like, you at least give an opportunity for the conversation to continue in a different direction.