• WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
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    5 days ago

    I am awkward and stressed, but not an introvert! Under the right (wrong) circumstances, I can drown a person in conversation, and even be very excited to talk!

    Since I will never bother someone by telling them they are kind of cute/asking them out, my only hope is that I get kidnaped by a crazy femcel!

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      5 days ago

      Not sure if we’ve gone over this before, but that sounds like me 10-20 years ago: socially awkward in a usually endearing but sometimes extremely (unintentionally) inflammatory way.

      cough Autistic cough.

      I know its scary but you really do just need to practice socializing a bit more, in person.

      Probably safer to practice with other autists, if you can find them.

      Being able to ask a person for something, politely, in a context appropriate way is an extremely important life skill. Yes, I know it really sucks and seems confusing as fuck because people do not actually make sense.

      … But people do mostly make sense, most of the time. It just takes exposure, and courage.

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        5 days ago

        I suspect ADHD, my brother has Asperger symptom. Could possibly be AuADHD?

        Yeah, I appreciate you, and your advice!

        We talked about stuff before, and I like you in general.

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          Asperger’s just is part of Autism now, the DSM V basically rolled up everything similar into Autism Spectrum Disorder, where there are a whole bunch of behavioral ‘dimensions’, and basically if your ‘total score’ exceeds a certain threshold, congrats you get the Autism achievement, lol.

          99% sure anybody who was diagnosed/classified as Aspergers would now be essentially a ‘flavor’ of Autist.

          There is also a significant genetic component to Autism… if your brother, mother, father have it, etc, more likely you will as well, or at least be higher on the ASD score than a normie from a family of normies.

          AuDHD is Autism + ADHD, which can and do co-occur, but at least for myself, I’m just Autistic.

          Anyway, this is all an overwrought way of me trying to say you have more options than consigning yourself to hope for a fantastic movie plot to occur to you.