It is interesting, how most people stand on either side of the spectrum from “I hate myself” to “I love myself”, with very few in the centre.
I am with you on this one ; my default mode of thinking assumes that I am the best at everything, which is obviously not litterally true. I struggle to understand those on the other side ; whose default is to assume they are the worst.
Both modes are somewhat unhealthy, but I would much rather be on this end (although, isn’t this just what someone like us would say ? That they would rather be themselves than anyone else ?).
my default mode of thinking assumes that I am the best at everything
Well then you are not quite with me though, I’m not even remotely the best at most things, and I know that. Everyone is pretty terrible at the things they haven’t practiced, and I haven’t spent a significant amount of practice with most things.
But to me, it is not important in the evaluation of how good I am in total that I’m good at many things. Everyone has different things that they are good at. Rather, for example, my ability to accurately assess my skills in different areas is one of the things what makes me actually good, i.e. not overestimating myself in things I’m terrible at, and not underestimating myself in things I’m actually good at. I think that is a skill everyone should be good at.
Obviously, this whole evaluation includes a plethora of factors, and this is just one of them. Truly getting into why I think I’m probably one of the best humans around would take too long for such a casual thread, and is likely not even close to being desired information for anyone.
And it’s not even guaranteed that my evaluation is any good, and anyway, everybody’s evaluation is different. I do not actually know if the criteria by which I judge myself and others are good right now, it’s very possible they change in the future once I know more. Other people’s set of criteria might be better than mine. As such, I don’t actually presume to tell anyone what I think of them unless they specifically want to know.
I’m not at any specific “mode” and I do think my way of thinking about myself is very healthy.
Very good, I think I’m probably one of the best humans on Earth, yet I still am far from perfect and have so many places where I can do better.
It is interesting, how most people stand on either side of the spectrum from “I hate myself” to “I love myself”, with very few in the centre.
I am with you on this one ; my default mode of thinking assumes that I am the best at everything, which is obviously not litterally true. I struggle to understand those on the other side ; whose default is to assume they are the worst.
Both modes are somewhat unhealthy, but I would much rather be on this end (although, isn’t this just what someone like us would say ? That they would rather be themselves than anyone else ?).
Well then you are not quite with me though, I’m not even remotely the best at most things, and I know that. Everyone is pretty terrible at the things they haven’t practiced, and I haven’t spent a significant amount of practice with most things.
But to me, it is not important in the evaluation of how good I am in total that I’m good at many things. Everyone has different things that they are good at. Rather, for example, my ability to accurately assess my skills in different areas is one of the things what makes me actually good, i.e. not overestimating myself in things I’m terrible at, and not underestimating myself in things I’m actually good at. I think that is a skill everyone should be good at.
Obviously, this whole evaluation includes a plethora of factors, and this is just one of them. Truly getting into why I think I’m probably one of the best humans around would take too long for such a casual thread, and is likely not even close to being desired information for anyone.
And it’s not even guaranteed that my evaluation is any good, and anyway, everybody’s evaluation is different. I do not actually know if the criteria by which I judge myself and others are good right now, it’s very possible they change in the future once I know more. Other people’s set of criteria might be better than mine. As such, I don’t actually presume to tell anyone what I think of them unless they specifically want to know.
I’m not at any specific “mode” and I do think my way of thinking about myself is very healthy.