So a friend of mine who I’ve had a good relationship with for several months told me about a month ago that she wants to stop talking to me all together as she thinks I am too overbearing and bring up unnecessary topics unintentionally. She basically said that I stole her voice from her, that she never can get a word in around me, and that she is a very private person. Yet, she never let me explain why I am the way that I am.
I never meant for this to happen, and I feel terrible about it, it’s all my fault. I want to write her a letter to apologize, as we both communicate best through writing. In this draft, it seems like I’m talking entirely about me, but really, I’m trying to understand how she feels. I need to make edits obviously though lol.
If you are interested or good at writing / editing, I’d love to know where I can improve. There will be three posts as I am only allowed to add one photo at a time 🙄.
In my experience, if someone doesn’t want to be friends anymore, all you can do is move on. Her explanation isn’t an invitation to fix something and try again. It’s just a small attempt at politeness. It may not even be the whole truth. It may even be an attempt at specifically discouraging you from trying again.
Even if you got her to agree to “give you another chance”, what kind of friendship would result from that? You, constantly walking on eggshells to avoid doing something you never realized you were doing? Her, just going through the motions out of guilt for a friendship she tried to end?
Just move on. It’s hard. It’ll stick with you. But just move on.