So, I’m a job-having asperger-type autistic man. L1ASD, I guess is the way to refer to it currently.
Shout out to all the non-job havers and everything in between, I get that I’m fortunate enough to have been able to manage to navigate through life and somehow sustain a career (in tech ofc).
OK - here’s my thing. My boss was fired last week due to corpo doing what corpo does, not because he did anything wrong, and he was a good dude that was supportive and wasn’t bothered by the fact that I am autistic and that I have certain communication-related differences than the rest of the team. He was kind of stablizing presence too for others on my team that are less understanding.
I have to tolerate teammates that lowkey openly mock me for my communiction challenges. Some of them know I’m autistic and are just ableist dicks that are mad they can’t throw around the r-word like they used to, others in the extended team don’t know but follow the lead of someonw who does. Whatever, not the point its just life.
Now I will have a new boss in about a week, I expect I will disclose to them to at least make an attempt for them to try to not judge my autistic persona in the arenas where it is most debilitated. You know I want them to suspend that surface-level jusdment and hold off for a character judgement instead, where I’m pretty solid and would prefer to have my value judged. Of course this isn’t how people work and sadly we see today the cultural tides pushing back against diversity, and that includes the neuro kind.
I know I can’t control this but I hate having to figure out somoene new, especially a boss. I know that things change, and like many of you I like consistency. I at least like to be in the driver’s seat when change is required.
I am just feeling so drained. Thanks for reading.


I know what you’re going through. I am in a similar position, new boss and everything. This our fifth new boss in 3 years because this place is an absolute train wreck outside of the specific department I work in.
It takes a huge toll. It’s a new person who has their own ways of wanting things to be done, and of course they won’t just say that so you have to dance around and figure out what it is they want and how to get that done without losing focus on your own work. They’ll arbitrarily change things just so they can say they did, even if it doesn’t actually accomplish anything.
The worst part of work is the people. I did find recently that I can just set my status in Teams to “Do Not Disturb” for the entire day and no one seems to want me to stop that so… that’s been nice because I’m simply do not disturb in human form and would much rather be left alone. That’s my tiny bit of solace right now, that at least I can ask for some quiet at work and mostly get it. I hope you can find something that helps you out too.
Thanks. You absolutely know where I’m at and I’m the same way. I love idea of being the human embodiment of Do-not-disturb.