When my spouse and I had kids, they expected me to “get my act together” - essentially, to stop having executive dysfunction.
In order to do laundry, I need to move the previous load out of the dryer, determine whose clothes it is (could be mixed), sort it, fold it, put it away, and THEN I can start the next load. This is an insurmountable mountain to me. Having separate bins for each person and splitting it into multiple tasks was deemed “controlling”.
We’re starting couples therapy now.
If you date a neurotypical, then make it absolutely crystal clear that this is who you are; not a choice, not laziness.
I wish there had been ADHD communities when I was younger so I’d know stuff like this isn’t just me being a bad person!
Its a thing. A normal thing for people like me.
I’m both relieved and appalled.
When my spouse and I had kids, they expected me to “get my act together” - essentially, to stop having executive dysfunction.
In order to do laundry, I need to move the previous load out of the dryer, determine whose clothes it is (could be mixed), sort it, fold it, put it away, and THEN I can start the next load. This is an insurmountable mountain to me. Having separate bins for each person and splitting it into multiple tasks was deemed “controlling”.
We’re starting couples therapy now.
If you date a neurotypical, then make it absolutely crystal clear that this is who you are; not a choice, not laziness.