• uniquethrowagay@feddit.org
    6·
    4 days ago

    True and all, but this is an autism community. Why are there so overwhelmingly many ADHD posts here? There are ADHD communities for content like this.

    • emenaman @lemmy.world
      22·
      5 days ago

      No debt but still have pile of unopened letters. It’s a huge relief when I finally tackle them and realize it’s mostly just junk mail. Only to find it was pile from last year and this year’s pile was on the other side of the desk to be anxiously avoided until I have the willpower to do it again in a few months. Then I remember that’s how I got badly in debt in the first place.

      It gets easier. Then harder! Then I find sonething new to dive into and forget all about it again

      • Ludicrous0251@piefed.zipEnglish
        7·
        5 days ago

        No extraordinary debts (just the normal ones on auto-pay) but the other day I inadvertently unearthed a speeding ticket from a traffic camera in a foreign country I traveled to four years ago.

        I have no idea if I paid it, but now every time I see it I get filled with the dread that I’m somehow an international fugitive, and yet I’d still rather die in a foreign prison cell than call the number on the ticket and ask if it’s been paid.

        • chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          6·
          5 days ago

          The trick with those is, if you never acknowledge you received it in any way you don’t have to pay and never get in trouble.

          …Probably, I only have one data point.

        • kungen@feddit.nu
          3·
          5 days ago

          If you haven’t gotten any reminders, they don’t really care, and it may have even reached statues of limitations. And unless it’s a real corrupt country, they’ll just have you pay it if they “catch” you. Just throw it away.

      • adhd_traco@piefed.socialEnglish
        2·
        5 days ago

        What a surprisingly profound post.

        That’s how I feel about everything I learn through tough experiences and then try to incorporate and keep incorporated in my life.

      • nomad@infosec.pub
        2·
        5 days ago

        Try the following trick: mail is a mix of different kinds of junk. So unopened mail needs to be separated in order to sort it into the correct bin. Opening is not about reading and reading is only about checking if it can be binned directly. If you have similar tendencies as I do, this works wonders. You have you separate the envelopes that have plastic windows though, they belong to a different bin.

    • Saapas@piefed.zipEnglish
      41·
      5 days ago

      Also people who are really lazy. “Eh I’ll check them out later”

    • Nalivai@lemmy.world
      4·
      4 days ago

      I have two right now, and they might as well be a pile, knowing my patterns. They will form a basis of a good big proper pile until I have a manic episode.

  • mech@feddit.org
    15·
    5 days ago

    When I moved house, I put all the Very Urgent Mail into a separate pile and packed it into my backpack instead of a box.
    So I could go through it and do what needs doing before all the boxes are unpacked in the new house.
    The pile still sits on my desk untouched, it’s been 6 months, and my cat now sits down on it whenever she wants to be left in peace. She knows I’m not gonna go near that.
    I figure since no cops or court officers have shown up yet, it can’t have been that urgent after all.

    • AeonFelis@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      4 days ago

      No need for scanning. I have a binder where I neatly organize them, and currently they are all shoved under the binder so that the cats won’t play with them.

  • WanakaTree@lemmy.zip
    1·
    3 days ago

    I’ve seen my wife open the mailbox, look at what’s in it, say “Ugh I don’t want to deal with that,” and PUT IT BACK IN THE MAILBOX

  • Ininewcrow@piefed.caEnglish
    6·
    5 days ago

    More like

    … do you have a pile that you see every day but never touch

    or more like

    … do you have a pile

    • avg@lemmy.zip
      1·
      5 days ago

      No, nothing important comes through the mail anymore. But I’ve gone weeks without doing timesheets at work and it risked my employment.

    • Test_Tickles@lemmy.world
      1·
      5 days ago

      Easy peasy my friend. Divide and conquer. I open all the mail, sort out the garbage from the important stuff. I throw away all the chaff and bullshit, sort that into important stuff that needs attention, and important stuff that needs to be kept track of.
      I then throw the important stuff that needs to be held onto but requires no action, into a box with the year (or at least a year within the last 3 years) written on the side. And then every 5 years or so I throw away the old boxes.
      At that point, what’s left is just a few pages per week that I then give to my spouse so they only have a couple of things to deal with.

      They then take those couple of pages and put them on top of the ever looming pile of toxic things that we will never dare to touch again.

      However, this pile is strategically placed so that it can’t be missed, and acts as an anxiety point that drives us to do other tasks that would normally be avoided, but now seems like a nice diversion in the shadow of “the pile”.

      Or at least that’s the way it used to work, but now we just avoid that room completely.