But how can you be sure? You are comparing your internal perception of the phenomenon that no one else but you can perceive to the internal perception of others that you cannot perceive.
Seems like it’s a matter of qualia, utterly subjective experience that is unshareable and thus incomparable between others.
Not every facet of ones existence must be somehow be different between neurotypical and neurodivergent.
It’s like with all people you just needed to believe that their suffering is real until it was provable. They never got an apology to having to suffer through being blamed as faking illness. And yes, even if faked or just subjectively bad, what’s the point? Why should they make it up?
As an example:
I was blamed by my neurologist of faking and whining and a mrt proved I have multiple sclerosis. Yay, I win… I guess??
The point being: this is /autism. If you’re going to blame, just leave. Even if not everything has to be about neurodivergence, here it is.
Apologies for reacting this pissed, but my (energy) spoons are all spent because it’s Friday and was hell of a week to cope but that’s probably also something everyone has to manage…
I don’t see my response as “blame”, it’s simply a statement that not every facet of your experience is necessarily unrelatable to others. This one is pretty innocuous, forgetting useful stuff for stuff that is emotionally impactful. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just something that everyone experiences.
I’m not a huge fan of the concept of just letting people believe certain facets of their lives are differences when in fact it’s a place for common ground. I dislike that any time humans organize ourselves into groups, we fixate on how we can minimize what we have in common with people outside the group, and fail to recognize commonality.
Hm. I see where you’re coming from. Currently I am really oversensitive regarding this topic because it quickly slips into the ‘It’s not so bad’ and ‘just pull yourself together’ territory.
And to be fair, sometimes that is right. But in general it leads to masking, breakdowns and burnouts which I experienced.
Hence the sensitivity.
I think this possibly makes sense for a Spectrum in general. I would also never want people to treat me over sensitive, either, so there we go.
Being able to communicate was always a great thing.
Sounds like pretty typical brain behaviour neurodivergent or not.
I could make that exact comment on every single post in here.
“I’m SPECIAL! I’m NEURODIVERGENT!”
<posts completely typical human behavior>
As always, yes, it can be similar. But the intensity and scale is in absolute overdrive.
Like comparing a paper cut to being slashed by a katana. Or something.
But how can you be sure? You are comparing your internal perception of the phenomenon that no one else but you can perceive to the internal perception of others that you cannot perceive.
Seems like it’s a matter of qualia, utterly subjective experience that is unshareable and thus incomparable between others.
Not every facet of ones existence must be somehow be different between neurotypical and neurodivergent.
You can’t, yet.
And that’s what makes it suck even more.
It’s like with all people you just needed to believe that their suffering is real until it was provable. They never got an apology to having to suffer through being blamed as faking illness. And yes, even if faked or just subjectively bad, what’s the point? Why should they make it up?
As an example: I was blamed by my neurologist of faking and whining and a mrt proved I have multiple sclerosis. Yay, I win… I guess??
The point being: this is /autism. If you’re going to blame, just leave. Even if not everything has to be about neurodivergence, here it is.
Apologies for reacting this pissed, but my (energy) spoons are all spent because it’s Friday and was hell of a week to cope but that’s probably also something everyone has to manage…
I don’t see my response as “blame”, it’s simply a statement that not every facet of your experience is necessarily unrelatable to others. This one is pretty innocuous, forgetting useful stuff for stuff that is emotionally impactful. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just something that everyone experiences.
I’m not a huge fan of the concept of just letting people believe certain facets of their lives are differences when in fact it’s a place for common ground. I dislike that any time humans organize ourselves into groups, we fixate on how we can minimize what we have in common with people outside the group, and fail to recognize commonality.
Hm. I see where you’re coming from. Currently I am really oversensitive regarding this topic because it quickly slips into the ‘It’s not so bad’ and ‘just pull yourself together’ territory.
And to be fair, sometimes that is right. But in general it leads to masking, breakdowns and burnouts which I experienced.
Hence the sensitivity.
I think this possibly makes sense for a Spectrum in general. I would also never want people to treat me over sensitive, either, so there we go.
Being able to communicate was always a great thing.