Exactly. I feel at home when I’m talking with friends and jumping around topics and going back to conversations that were started 5 topics ago after having derailed into a sub topic. We all are just like “oh yeah, we were talking about that”.
Hrm… when I am with my family (brothers and Sisters) our conversations are like this. Our partners find it a bit weird/intense/think we are always fighting but we think that’s just how it works…
Question about autistic friends, how do they/you feel like when someone politely and moderately informed-ly disagrees with your take on the topic of choice?
Personally I love it when people question or even disagree with me, yay learning something new or a new perspective, but sometimes the intensity makes expressing disagreement or “uh, actually, that’s a common misconception but…” feel offensive. (Yes, I know more/different aspects of a niche interest than an autistic friend of mine who is also into it, I’m as shocked as you are.)
Oh my friends and I argue for fun all the time! I actually find it a really forgiving space since we all struggle with things like RSD and I think it helps us learn to communicate when we are feeling things like that.
It’s really refreshing and nice not to have to mask my autism as well.
Its also very interesting because we all have our different special interests to infodump about :)
It’s just a really colourful and loving group and it truly feels like a family (tbf we aren’t all autistic but many of us are and even more of us are ND–def over 50%)
You need autistic friends
Exactly. I feel at home when I’m talking with friends and jumping around topics and going back to conversations that were started 5 topics ago after having derailed into a sub topic. We all are just like “oh yeah, we were talking about that”.
Hrm… when I am with my family (brothers and Sisters) our conversations are like this. Our partners find it a bit weird/intense/think we are always fighting but we think that’s just how it works…
Question about autistic friends, how do they/you feel like when someone politely and moderately informed-ly disagrees with your take on the topic of choice?
Personally I love it when people question or even disagree with me, yay learning something new or a new perspective, but sometimes the intensity makes expressing disagreement or “uh, actually, that’s a common misconception but…” feel offensive. (Yes, I know more/different aspects of a niche interest than an autistic friend of mine who is also into it, I’m as shocked as you are.)
Oh my friends and I argue for fun all the time! I actually find it a really forgiving space since we all struggle with things like RSD and I think it helps us learn to communicate when we are feeling things like that.
It’s really refreshing and nice not to have to mask my autism as well.
Its also very interesting because we all have our different special interests to infodump about :) It’s just a really colourful and loving group and it truly feels like a family (tbf we aren’t all autistic but many of us are and even more of us are ND–def over 50%)
Yeah, but that is a task made more difficult by my reluctance to be social.