I find your idea that a comment ought be positive rather displeasing. I think its a bit of toxic positivity whereby useful criticism is muted for no good reason other than vibes.
The big point though, is that you simplifying my comment down to positive or negative, going so far as to imply that my comments said anything like “give up” is completely out of order.
Someone in a dark place does not want to be belittled by advice that minimizes the actual difficulty of the situation they’re in and the hard work and process they’ll need to go through to get out of it.
This idea that people magically are just happier with light, trite advice is inane to me.
It also seems utterly empathy lacking to dump on self-pity like people aren’t allowed to be sad, like thats a failure of the person.
Quite frankly you come across as someone who pretends to care so they can beat down others with their opinions and feel smarter/better by using weaponized civility. Its all frustrating and it feels like you have tried your best to egg on confrontation here with how wildly you misrepresented what I’ve said.
I find your idea that a comment ought be positive rather displeasing. I think its a bit of toxic positivity whereby useful criticism is muted for no good reason other than vibes.
The big point though, is that you simplifying my comment down to positive or negative, going so far as to imply that my comments said anything like “give up” is completely out of order.
Someone in a dark place does not want to be belittled by advice that minimizes the actual difficulty of the situation they’re in and the hard work and process they’ll need to go through to get out of it.
This idea that people magically are just happier with light, trite advice is inane to me.
It also seems utterly empathy lacking to dump on self-pity like people aren’t allowed to be sad, like thats a failure of the person.
Quite frankly you come across as someone who pretends to care so they can beat down others with their opinions and feel smarter/better by using weaponized civility. Its all frustrating and it feels like you have tried your best to egg on confrontation here with how wildly you misrepresented what I’ve said.