On the other side of this; I often feel like people think they already know what’s being said and then interrupt or at least show that they aren’t listening anymore but they actually don’t know. So all that ends up happening is that they misunderstand and now the whole conversation has gotten bad.
It’s very common for people to say stuff to give context, and that might sound like that’s all they’re saying but they are just making sure the listener is aware of that context.
And when people explain things over and over with different words it just means they’re doing their best to describe something in a specific way and translating that into a conversation is not easy. It’s either because they themselves aren’t satisfied with how they said it and are actually showing you respect by really trying to find the right words. Or it’s because they see that your understanding of what they said isn’t what they really meant.
Don’t ever think you know exactly what someone is saying until they show you they are satisfied with both their own explanation and your replies that show you understand.
Show some respect to people by giving them the extra few seconds or minutes to get to where they need, especially with friends and family.
A reoccurring thing throughout my whole life with friends and acquaintances that have ADHD is just this, they think they know the whole story and that there’s nothing more to it and that every second after that is wasted time etc. but SO many times that is a huge mistake. And it can easily fuck up relationships, it’s not a good thing.
And just to be clear: I have ADHD, though mine works pretty differently than how it does for the vast majority of people. In no way saying better or worse, those words don’t exist in this topic for me, just differently. And every single person is different from the next, both including and excluding any kind of “disorder” (not a fan ot the word). Just saying that I see similarities with the vast majority of people that have a diagnosis (or not but are clearly on the spectrum) and have only ever met two people who have the same “wavelength” as me in this.
On the other side of this; I often feel like people think they already know what’s being said and then interrupt or at least show that they aren’t listening anymore but they actually don’t know. So all that ends up happening is that they misunderstand and now the whole conversation has gotten bad. It’s very common for people to say stuff to give context, and that might sound like that’s all they’re saying but they are just making sure the listener is aware of that context. And when people explain things over and over with different words it just means they’re doing their best to describe something in a specific way and translating that into a conversation is not easy. It’s either because they themselves aren’t satisfied with how they said it and are actually showing you respect by really trying to find the right words. Or it’s because they see that your understanding of what they said isn’t what they really meant.
Don’t ever think you know exactly what someone is saying until they show you they are satisfied with both their own explanation and your replies that show you understand. Show some respect to people by giving them the extra few seconds or minutes to get to where they need, especially with friends and family.
A reoccurring thing throughout my whole life with friends and acquaintances that have ADHD is just this, they think they know the whole story and that there’s nothing more to it and that every second after that is wasted time etc. but SO many times that is a huge mistake. And it can easily fuck up relationships, it’s not a good thing.
And just to be clear: I have ADHD, though mine works pretty differently than how it does for the vast majority of people. In no way saying better or worse, those words don’t exist in this topic for me, just differently. And every single person is different from the next, both including and excluding any kind of “disorder” (not a fan ot the word). Just saying that I see similarities with the vast majority of people that have a diagnosis (or not but are clearly on the spectrum) and have only ever met two people who have the same “wavelength” as me in this.