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minus-squareFlyingCircus@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up6arrow-down1·1 day agoThe way to defeat this is to say you think you understand, then repeat back their argument in your own words. You don’t have to agree, but people are often satisfied if they know they are at least understood.
minus-squaregmtom@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·1 day agoThen they just say “no, what I’m saying is…” And go on to say exactly what you said but worded slightly different.
minus-squareFlyingCircus@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up3·1 day agoWell, then you say “OK” and disengage. At that point it’s like dunking for apples when you don’t have any teeth.
The way to defeat this is to say you think you understand, then repeat back their argument in your own words. You don’t have to agree, but people are often satisfied if they know they are at least understood.
Then they just say “no, what I’m saying is…” And go on to say exactly what you said but worded slightly different.
Well, then you say “OK” and disengage. At that point it’s like dunking for apples when you don’t have any teeth.