I told my autistic son to stop following a girl around and telling her she is sexy after he got in trouble for doing it. Told him why, and explained how that stalking criminal charges could be brought against him. Explained how an arrest and criminal record would make his life exceedingly difficult.
So he doubled down and threatened the girl’s boyfriend instead.
Oh I wish logic and reason applied, I would happily explain ANYTHING in extreme detail. I mean, I have.
I have no idea how to get through to this boy. School is little help, psychologists don’t know or won’t be bothered to know, therapists are clueless. He’s high-functioning in so many ways so most are happy to ignore him–until shit like this comes up.
And there you have it. Teach your child that they don’t have empathy and they will not understand how to be empathetic. Add patriarchy and an unempathetic AMAB asshole can become a whole-ass adult without ever being made to stop and imagine how others feel.
My point is that you can’t just tell someone who experiences the world differently, which is pretty much a hallmark of autism, to experience the world as someone else would. It takes a lot of understanding of other people to learn this skill in the first place, and if your kid is lacking this skill, saying “jeez kid, do this thing you’re not doing” isn’t going to magically remedy the situation.
I told my autistic son to stop following a girl around and telling her she is sexy after he got in trouble for doing it. Told him why, and explained how that stalking criminal charges could be brought against him. Explained how an arrest and criminal record would make his life exceedingly difficult.
So he doubled down and threatened the girl’s boyfriend instead.
Oh I wish logic and reason applied, I would happily explain ANYTHING in extreme detail. I mean, I have.
I have no idea how to get through to this boy. School is little help, psychologists don’t know or won’t be bothered to know, therapists are clueless. He’s high-functioning in so many ways so most are happy to ignore him–until shit like this comes up.
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did you try asking him to have empathy and understand the girl’s position?
Autistics still have empathy…
And there you have it. Teach your child that they don’t have empathy and they will not understand how to be empathetic. Add patriarchy and an unempathetic AMAB asshole can become a whole-ass adult without ever being made to stop and imagine how others feel.
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My point is that you can’t just tell someone who experiences the world differently, which is pretty much a hallmark of autism, to experience the world as someone else would. It takes a lot of understanding of other people to learn this skill in the first place, and if your kid is lacking this skill, saying “jeez kid, do this thing you’re not doing” isn’t going to magically remedy the situation.
Being told and understanding are fundamentally different things.