For the first two things, there’s always going to be manipulative assholes that grasp onto anything they think will garnish sympathy. Rather than targeting otherwise innocent behaviour that goes along with manipulation, we should be educating people about what manipulation is and how to avoid it.
For mental health issues, it comes down to, your mental condition might explain your behaviour but it doesn’t excuse it. If your behaviour is causing me harm, I don’t need to accept that for any reason. All a diagnosis does is provides you with more information about how to manage your shit.
If someone uses a diagnosis to justify their behaviour, they are essentially saying that this is the way they will always be, which IMO is even more reason for others to take their own steps to mitigate those behaviours, which might mean cutting them out emotionally, cutting them out entirely, or getting help from others to do those.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm and stop letting them manipulate you.
For the first two things, there’s always going to be manipulative assholes that grasp onto anything they think will garnish sympathy. Rather than targeting otherwise innocent behaviour that goes along with manipulation, we should be educating people about what manipulation is and how to avoid it.
For mental health issues, it comes down to, your mental condition might explain your behaviour but it doesn’t excuse it. If your behaviour is causing me harm, I don’t need to accept that for any reason. All a diagnosis does is provides you with more information about how to manage your shit.
If someone uses a diagnosis to justify their behaviour, they are essentially saying that this is the way they will always be, which IMO is even more reason for others to take their own steps to mitigate those behaviours, which might mean cutting them out emotionally, cutting them out entirely, or getting help from others to do those.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm and stop letting them manipulate you.