The first seems reasonable, until the reasoning is given, which reveals the whole message is batshit.
Though IMO someone getting upset at being told they are lucky to be with the person they are with is kinda full of themselves and reading way too much into it. It’s more of a “I wish I was in your place without stating any intention to usurp it” than a “you don’t deserve to be in that place and must be there because things outside of your intent or control got you there”. It’s more non-threatening flattery towards your partner (as opposed to just flirting with her) than anything else and I’d consider taking offense at someone saying that to be a red flag even before he went off the deep end.
It predicts the fragile ego stuff that follows rather than contrasts IMO.





And AI is going to put that into overdrive.
For a little while, I helped with some intern and recent grad interviews and holy shit some people didn’t have a clue. Had one guy on a remote interview that had a friend there helping him answer questions. It was obvious because he didn’t even mute his mic and we could hear them. And it was extra pathetic because his friend wasn’t even feeding him anything useful, like Bevis was helping Butthead with a software engineering interview.
We had a short break and when we resumed, he had at least figured out to mute his mic between questions (not that that helped, as muting yourself frequently when you’re one of the main speakers in the meeting alone is a red flag without some reason that should be obvious when it isn’t muted). Only resumed because I was fairly new to interviewing, if I got one of those today (and still did interviews), I would have ended it early.