That is what I think about. I don’t mean they did the best they could. I’m saying that due to their mentality and personal psychology there were no way for them to act another way. If we turn back time they’d do the same thing as it is what they saw from their personal background. I don’t mean we should understand them and forgive, I just think that we could take the responsibility for our life and get over that trauma and frustration to live further without the feeling that our happiness depends on what our parents did to us in the past. You can have another opinion that’s okay, I just express mine.
I think we both are saying to same thing in different ways. I was just saying blaming someone or finding the source helps to start the healing. It is 100% up to the individual to take responsibility on how they treat people. My older brother has “daddy” issues and tends to blame not getting enough approval for being a mess up. I still blame my brother for not bettering himself since then. He’s in his 40s.
Every generation has trauma they pass down in some way, both known and unknown ways. Most parents do their best and we are all human. We’re bound to make mistakes. It is up to the individual to learn from them though.
That is what I think about. I don’t mean they did the best they could. I’m saying that due to their mentality and personal psychology there were no way for them to act another way. If we turn back time they’d do the same thing as it is what they saw from their personal background. I don’t mean we should understand them and forgive, I just think that we could take the responsibility for our life and get over that trauma and frustration to live further without the feeling that our happiness depends on what our parents did to us in the past. You can have another opinion that’s okay, I just express mine.
I think we both are saying to same thing in different ways. I was just saying blaming someone or finding the source helps to start the healing. It is 100% up to the individual to take responsibility on how they treat people. My older brother has “daddy” issues and tends to blame not getting enough approval for being a mess up. I still blame my brother for not bettering himself since then. He’s in his 40s.
Every generation has trauma they pass down in some way, both known and unknown ways. Most parents do their best and we are all human. We’re bound to make mistakes. It is up to the individual to learn from them though.
Absolutely