When you tried to express your feelings, your friend made it about themselves. You are the one who was wronged, you are allowed to be upset! How could she even talk about autism this way, especially knowing you are one, and knowing you are listening to everything being said. Anyone would be upset hearing those things, even more so if it’s from someone they trust enough to share something like that with! You are valid!

As of now, no there isn’t a way to move Ur account from one instance to another

With the flood of new people to Lemmy, I think everyone is busy with making sure that everything is working as intended, the servers are running, and other basic needs. So in my opinion it might be a good idea to bring it up at a future date (I might be wrong idfk) but anyways I love the idea of big events like r/place offered I think it would be great