Thank you. I know what you mean, and it’s helpful to have someone acknowledge that it’s unacceptable. I’ve tried to gently communicate with one family member already, but that hasn’t really worked, and I really don’t want to have drawn-out conversations about this with multiple cousins. It’s already exhausting. I’ll have to be more direct this time.

Thanks. I think you’re right in that they seem to want forgiveness without responsibility or consequence. They aren’t actually ready to talk about the root cause, they just want me to put it behind us. I have no desire to do that.

Thank you. It’s useful to have an example of that kind of response. I’ll try being direct.

Thank you. Yes, I don’t think they should get a pass for being family if they are harming my mental health.