I use my own domain. I do not host my own email myself though. For email providers, you have several options, Migadu being one of them. But pretty much all premium email providers nowadays allow you to use your own domain.
For aliases, I would recommend something like Addy. It is basically a forwarding service, that hides your real email address. It is really cool. Spamgourmet used to do this back in the day, but nowadays it is mostly dead.


I found the link to be very poor in details. The study itself is available here: https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/735630. It seems to be behind a paywall though. If someone has the pdf/link to a non paywall, please provide it.
The most important paragraphs from the link OP provided are these:
Perhaps a good framework for this sort of rhetoric is Marshall’s Non-Violent Communication (NVC).