It takes some effort, but this is untrue. You can easily degoogle many phones with a privacy oriented OS. If you want to avoid Apple, make sure you’re not buying an iphone. Install Linux on your computer and use libre open source programs, a privacy oriented email and messaging app. If you need to watch youtube, at least use a proper front end for it. I don’t think anyone needs facebook or tiktok, I’ve been able to just walk away from those without alternatives.
There are manageable approaches to distance yourself almost entirely from these spy companies if you really want to. You can do it slowly, or pick one company at a time to get away from. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, and even small steps in the right direction are beneficial to your privacy.
I agree that we need to slow down AI development and gauge long-term impacts on society with each major advancement. This will never happen, because no one trusts competitors to stop. There is no good faith or trust in this field, just pure competition. So they are racing into development head on, driven by greed and fear of not being first.