So? I still think it’s a lot nicer than matrix.
and it can easily be made persistent but I prefer xmpp for that.
xmpp is the best, I just don’t like the chatrooms as much as irc.

Please don’t be pedantic. Communicating isn’t always about persistence.

and don’t forget internet relay chat

I’m sorry. I’ve been where you’re at and I don’t have any reasonable long-term solutions for you.

I’ve been toying with the idea of setting up an autist-run and autist-led company or companies for quite a while now so people can just work together with as little friction as possible and live enjoyable lives, or at least feel comfortable in their jobs, but I really don’t have the heart for entrepreneurship anymore so I’m hoping you or someone else here does and steals this idea and finds a way to make it work, for all of us. I can’t do it alone anymore but I’d be happy to help any autist willing to try.