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Cake day: August 7th, 2023

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  • Absolutely. Not having a something is (almost always) better than having “problems” with that something, incl. people.

    I didn’t know about my autism till recently, 40 years of age. Was “misdiagnosed” in the 90s, or my mom just didn’t want to hear the diagnose when I was younger with the hope I’d turn out okay, despite my very clear struggling at school/work for 28 years, which was when and why I moved country, where I now similarly struggle.

    So I do realize that cutting people off as easily as we want is just a symptom of ours. Even when angry, others (NT) will soon get over it, even if we (ND) still hold an extreme grudge. Even though it also feels extremely good to get rid of them, it’s not a cure for this world, or our world.

    I’m just trying to say it might be really hard for some people to cut others off, like I sure have done, and still have some “community” or support around them. To become self-sufficient, before turning to negative thoughts so to say. It sucks, and I know there is little help. Just tossing some virtual coins into the fountain here, wishing some youngster might get a better life than mine knowing what they’re about to go up to. Despite all the gaslighting going on.


  • “Walk away.”

    While I have to agree 100% with what you say, because I have lived with that same motto for the last 40 years, it maybe ain’t really a solution in the end.

    You’ll lose everyone (NT) you know because they are, at some point, all like this. So you’ll end up alone running away from yourself. Then go crazy, unless you can provide for yourself.

    I’ve abandoned most of my relations, personal and professional, for gaslighting me. I walked away so far I (literally) ended up on the other side of the planet. They still gaslighting me.

    I don’t have any advice, just a warning.

    Interesting to see all the response here as I can relate to them so much.



  • Doctors are still people and people make mistakes.

    Yet it’s hard to not hold a grudge against a doctor telling you you’re a liar. Let alone if multiple say the same thing. Especially if they do it “by the book” so to speak.

    The experience I had here, another country, the GP just looked at my eczema (basically eyes, fingers, spots on legs and arms all red and itchy af) and said without a doubt in her voice “allergy.” And was she right about that. So don’t give up hope.

    Edit: Not that I meant to say you should move to another country. Just that because here it is more humid, there is more mold, so more similar cases might have passed this GP in her time practicing.


  • I’ve had eczema all my life. Mostly on my face/arms/legs, whenever exposed (summer/winter). Have been prescribed a shitton of steroid-based ointments. That never worked. From GP to dermatologists, they never knew coz “eczema can’t be explained”, so they always “assumed” stuff, blaming the heat, the cold, the dust, the sun, the water, too much soap, too little soap (calling me dirty).

    Not once did they (offer me to) test for allergies. Just assumed it was something unexplainable. Just live with it.

    Even been called a liar when I told them those steroid-based ointments actually make it worse.

    I moved to another country, still had this eczema. Worse actually. 1 GP visit and an allergy test later it appears I have a mold allergy.

    Doesn’t help I have lived and still live in an even more humid environment. Rain is the worst, because the spores come out. But with the help of some anti-histamines I have been eczema free for a few years. Mold thrives on steroids, so I avoid that.