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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • In addition to all the good answers previously given, a conductor interprets what the composer has written. And different conductors may create very different interpretations of the same piece. They can set the basic tempo faster or slower, they can get the orchestra to really lean in to a particular musical phrase or de-emphasise it, they can bring out the horns at one point or hush them a bit and let us focus on the oboe or piccolo… A good conductor has studied and notated the entire score for some time before they and the orchestra even begin to rehearse.

    So, part of that bow at the end can be to say, “what do you think of this interpretation compared to all the other times you’ve heard this famous symphony?” Then they usually turn around and wave the orchestra members to stand, which means, “and didn’t these guys do a great job executing it!?”





  • It’s sad things like this that make me think, it’s too bad church is all fucked up with religion. Because “Entire families, plus any single individuals, get washed and dressed up, then join under the stained-glass windows to sit and stand and sing and go through the motions, while all the eligible sweeties pretend they’re not checking out all the other eligible sweeties, and have a whole hour to think of something to say to them over the coffee and cookies afterwards. Repeat weekly” is pretty much how a lot of people found partners for generations. Especially those whose families couldn’t afford ballrooms and country clubs.










  • It sounds like fun but having gone through it for a couple of years, it’s not. There’s times of abstinence and times when it’s all about impregnation, not spontaneity or fun. She’s constantly watching her cycle, and every period is extra depressing. And that’s not counting any infertility treatments like hormones fucking with emotions. Our now-adult offspring are amazing and I’m glad we did it, but it wasn’t just “fuck a lot.”


  • Look into freezing sperm now while you’re young and it’s squirmy and spermy and healthy. Then you can get the snip (or the no-snip method) and when you do want kids you won’t be ruining your sex life with scheduled sessions. She can get inseminated when the ultrasound shows an ovum is waiting and it’ll have a better chance of conception. Go in with her if you can and she’s comfortable with that. Just as you will for the birth.


  • The woman should be ABLE and ALLOWED to protect herself against pregnancy, yes, but the responsibility isn’t all hers. Every unwanted pregnancy starts with sperm. Her ovum was just sitting there, innocently drifting down the fallopian tube, staying inside her body.

    Any man who doesn’t accept his full responsibility for preventing pregnancy, or for the consequences of a pregnancy occurring, is a shit.

    Female-centered methods that are invasive like IUDs or rely on hormones like the Pill have common side effects like intense pain, personality changes, increased stroke and heart attack risk. The only reason women tolerate them is because the consequences of pregnancy are higher for them. The side effects of vasectomy are temporary pain and bruising, and sperm granuloma. Sperm quality diminishes quite slowly and sperm can be frozen beforehand, so it’s still possible to father a wanted child.