

This isn’t an “in-group”, you aren’t being excluded, they aren’t trying to obscure what they’re talking about. They’ve come to an understanding that when THEY say “hierarchy” they mean something different, stop trying to assign some devious motive to it. I get why it annoys you when an anarchist SHOULD know they’re talking to people unfamiliar with that usage, or act difficult and refuse to acknowledge that the term means something different in general usage. That doesn’t ALL anarchist do that, or even that those that DO are trying specifically to fuck with you.
The reasons behind the specific definition is pretty complex, but you have to understand, when anarchists are talking about these systems they don’t want to spend a whole page PRECISELY explaining what they mean every single time. Many writings are translated from other languages, or written in english by people who aren’t native english speakers, “jargon” here is kinda necessary for ease of communication. Are you gonna get mad if you hang out with some electricians don’t understand what the hell they’re talking about when they start using technical terminology?
No one is discussing whether it’s a “good” definition, just that it’s understandable, this isn’t a disagreement on the “moral rightness” of whether to define hierarchy that way, just that it’s intelligible and consistent.
Also, actually fuck off comparing anarchists having a specific definition of hierarchy to homophobic bullshit, that is entirely in bad faith and I KNOW you know that.