I’m bi (specifically polysexual, but that gets confusing because its less well known and I’m also polyamorous) and my attraction to specific genitals is roughly equal to body morphology and a cute face’s importance, but I’m simply way less less picky about them.

I wish I was just as non-picky about the body morphology and cute faces. My romantic life would probably have been way more fulfilling at this point if that had been the case.

I oscillate between wishing I was attracted to basically everyone with every possible kink (outside of the unethical options) and no attraction at all.

That’s not what the people who are gleeful about his impending death are downright cheering about. They’re gleeful because of their parasocial hatred of the man.

What you are talking about is an entirely different discussion. You are just shifting the goalposts.

I hate Biden because he had a major hand in letting Trump win, but I legitimately do not give a fuck that hes dying of cancer, pro or con. He is irrelevant now. And the people invested in this are experiencing their own derangement syndrome, only worse than most cases because Biden is no longer even president.

You aren’t getting laid if you are broke, unless you are very very hot or very very charismatic.

What if I don’t give a flying fuck about Biden? And I find both the people dancing about his nearing demise and the people clutching their pearls about that fucking stupid? There are almost certainly more important things of substance to place your energy into.

I’m so fucking tired.

Its not really that fey is a slur (IDK if it is and I’m bi) but that he said “That’s the problem” afterward. Like, saying its unfortunate that hes the gay dude of the power rangers and that the gay guy got named after him is a problem. Its a very “your dad is kind of homophobic” level but its still shitty.

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non-problematic

I mean, I don’t hate Bryan Cranston. In fact I still like him a lot… but I have some bad news.

Now he at least apologized for it and seems earnestly sorry. And doesn’t even remember saying it. But I think this goes to show that basically no one is “non-problematic”.

“Ghoulish” are you sure you are using that word correctly?

Usually when people complain about internet porn artists and gooners they call them degenerates.

For some straight guys and gay ladies a girl could be mean to them and that’d increase how much they want them.

That’s a fairly small subset though.

I feel like this feature is a good idea that has come too late for me. I already “group” stuff via windows. That’ll be a hard habit to break.

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Trans people seem to have a knack for hating men huh.

I’m not trans. I’m a cis male. (edit: well, mostly. TBH on a higher rational level I might as well be genderless, I’m a cis male by convenience)

Go on, try it there’ll be no tolerance for people who advocate for this levels of evil

Evil? I’m suggesting such not to punish males. Its to minimize loneliness and sadness in the world.

Trans man here to say that nobody needs to give any extra cred to MRA bullshit just because a trans person is saying it. I have also been through the full dude experience including profound loneliness. I likewise thought I was prepared but wasn’t. Its hard. I miss how things were before too.

I don’t think the author was giving credit to MRA bullshit. MRA’s seem to often hate women and I don’t think the article implies any hatred, if anything he still tries to essentially that men are the ones that need to put in the effort to push past toxic masculinity. Describing it as a problem to be fixed at the individual level rather than at systematic level. Saying "If I could advise men, it would be first to look inward. "

I also know that in general, in 2025, all people are more isolated than 20 years ago. Furthermore, it is a known phenomena for a longtime that friendships are more difficult to cultivate as an adult. I doubt how different things would have turned out for me had I not transitioned.

Suicide rates differ for a reason. It is far more painful to be a lonely man than a lonely woman. Men are very quick to self loathing.

I also know that the “distance” I now experience from women is a direct result of 20,000 years of patriarchal violence. Of course women relate to me as a potential threat; I am one. And without the presumed vulnerability I possessed as a woman, men relate accordingly. Of course.

We should have fewer male babies. It seems like it’d reduce the amount of fear and alienation in society. (I’m saying this in good faith, I’m serious.)

At some point, as a trans guy, you need to stop leaning on your experience “as a former woman” to compare your life to, especially in the negative. Being 22 is not the same as 42 no matter what your gender presentation at any point. Many people experience nostalgia for their youth.

Based on my own reading/discourse, trans women usually seem to feel very little youth nostalgia in comparison. They might complain that they’re older now, but that’s usually more of a melancholy over “what could have been” had they been AFAB.

Just as when cis guys make these complaints, I question this person’s definition of “you dont get to”. In fact the article describes him making a career out of doing so. Even specific instances of “going viral”, and the affirmative feedback he received. It seems that you do get to.

I’m pretty sure he was talking about social pressures. Sure, he got to because he was very motivated to push against that societal expectation, that doesn’t really mean that average men can get away with that unless they dedicate their whole career/life to it.

Which leads to pointing out that the whole thing is an advertisment for the author who is “a Professional Corporate Speaker and Stress Management Coach”.

I think calling it an advertisement is a stretch based only on that, but even if it was that doesn’t invalidate the point being made.

And it has anti-trans hate material suggested items in the middle of it:

I think that’s just because those are controversial yet related articles on Newsweek so their algorithm picked them. But yeah, those do seem to be especially trashy and obvious anti-trans articles. Its kind of gross that they ever ran on Newsweek to be honest…

Transitioning to a point of passing in my understanding (mtf or ftm) comes with pros and cons.

I often think about this article as well when it comes to trans men’s negative experiences once accepted as men: https://www.newsweek.com/trans-man-broken-men-1817169

Fascists are not empowered by political apathy

Fascists are empowered by political apathy in a first past the post election system. Which we have.

And its not just tankies. You guys are an influence but you aren’t the sole driver of this result of low turnout obviously.

This is something many clownishly-apolitical individuals that aren’t tankies understand and still choose not to vote because they also, like tankies, think both parties are the same but for more low brow selfish small minded reasons. I live in a deeply rural area and commute to a small city and I’ve encountered these morons first hand in both places. Typically these are poorly educated impoverished people who feel left behind by perceived elites (not just rich people but basically any people smart enough to work low paying white collar like myself). Who don’t realize they’re letting things get worse for them and now will end up materially worse off and even some of them will end up dead as a result.

And in so far that a person can deserve their own misfortune, they will. Because they either know or very much ought to know what was at stake and did not give a fuck.

I actually think most tankies will be fine though. You guys are educated enough that you’re probably not on average nearly as impoverished as these types. It’ll just be the dipshit apolitical underclass of people who will start feeling things get noticeably worse.

Maybe it wont be too late for them to be moved by their impending suffering and react to it in a productive way but at this point I’m kind of over it. I’m ambivalent at this point.

Typically first dates are not the same place you first meet someone.

I know, but that there aren’t a lot of places to meet people in person without spending a bunch of money is a major problem and meeting people online to date sucks.

Not everyone loves meandering around a park or beach. Though I’ll admit its good for our brains to do so. It always feels like a chore to me, I get bored.

Also was it alcoholic cider? That would explain why it was fun.

Also those places aren’t really great for meeting people and even then you don’t want to make those locations the only dating locations.

The guys saying the top three things aren’t necessarily the same as those saying the bottom thing. But there is definitely some overlap. Which is depressing. Though, I mean is that really that surprising given the state of the world and how stupid the average person is?

The loneliness epidemic also effects women. We’re all more lonely and miserable these days. I think really men and women are alienated from each other in large numbers due to internet brain rot. And being too broke to do anything outside except like… go to a public park or a library or something.

The shitty rightwing politics comes after, the average person is too stupid to not get immediately sucked into manipulative rightwing grift when they’re painfully lonely.

I say this as I consume internet brain rot myself. Though at least its on Lemmy and not Tik Tok, Reddit, or Facebook, and its during work, not my free time.

In order for him to answer your question he’d need you to define more precisely what you are asking so he doesn’t argue against a point you aren’t making. You seem to refuse that clarification and are just saying hes a bullshitter repeatedly. Which implies you don’t actually care if he can provide evidence at all.

Hes saying he doesn’t trust you not to waste his time. Arguing using evidence requires effort that is often wasted on people who don’t care about evidence. (Even if they say they do care about evidence)

Just pointing out I don’t have a horse in this race otherwise. I’m not going to make the claim AI can yet solve novel problems. I just despise intellectual dishonesty.

I would if I got to join. I’ve always wanted to do an eiffel tower.

I’m bi and poly though.

Though also I’m probably never going to get married.